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 You can make a suggestion more powerful by phrasing it as a presupposition.To a man in a hypnotic trance, “You may notice that you’re getting thirsty,” is a much more effective suggestion that, “You must be getting thirsty.”The question is no longer, Am I thirsty? but, Do I notice?The thirst is presupposed.To a man in a state of ordinary awareness, though, the phrasing of the suggestion as a presupposition sounds weird.His reaction isn’t, I’m thirsty, but What’s going on here?The simpler version is better because it sounds natural-a thoughtful and caring remark with no ulterior purpose.Presuppositions don’t always sound weird, though, and when they fit the flow of conversation,​ they can be used to good advantage. You can make a suggestion more powerful by phrasing it as a presupposition.To a man in a hypnotic trance, “You may notice that you’re getting thirsty,” is a much more effective suggestion that, “You must be getting thirsty.”The question is no longer, Am I thirsty? but, Do I notice?The thirst is presupposed.To a man in a state of ordinary awareness, though, the phrasing of the suggestion as a presupposition sounds weird.His reaction isn’t, I’m thirsty, but What’s going on here?The simpler version is better because it sounds natural-a thoughtful and caring remark with no ulterior purpose.Presuppositions don’t always sound weird, though, and when they fit the flow of conversation,​ they can be used to good advantage.
  
-Let’s go back to the afternoon of Patrick’s enslavement and look at the suggestions I gave him. +Let’s go back to the afternoon of Patrick’s enslavement and look at the suggestions I gave him.\\ 
-When I had finished describing what was involved in being my love slave and he said, “I can’t agree to that,” I gave him a highly suggestive answer:​“Oh,​ you’ll agree to it.Tied up like this, you don’t have any choice.” +When I had finished describing what was involved in being my love slave and he said, “I can’t agree to that,” I gave him a highly suggestive answer:​“Oh,​ you’ll agree to it.Tied up like this, you don’t have any choice.”\\ 
-It worked; he agreed. +It worked; he agreed.\\ 
-When he asked what I was going to do to him, part of my answer was, “I’m going to play with you, and you’ aren’t going to be able to help but come.”+When he asked what I was going to do to him, part of my answer was, “I’m going to play with you, and you’ aren’t going to be able to help but come.”\\
 That suggestion worked too; he came. That suggestion worked too; he came.
  
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 That prepared him to cooperate with the particular bit of play I described, and it ensured that he would respond erotically.Again,​ his response is presupposed.There was still a chance he would put up some token resistance to letting me tie his hands, but once I’d got that out of the way, my pressing against him and kissing him was certain to make his cock hard. That prepared him to cooperate with the particular bit of play I described, and it ensured that he would respond erotically.Again,​ his response is presupposed.There was still a chance he would put up some token resistance to letting me tie his hands, but once I’d got that out of the way, my pressing against him and kissing him was certain to make his cock hard.
  
-“You’re going to have to get used to sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. It’s part of being my love slave.” +“You’re going to have to get used to sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. It’s part of being my love slave.”\\ 
-He did get used to it, and much sooner, I’m sure, than he would have without that suggestion. +He did get used to it, and much sooner, I’m sure, than he would have without that suggestion.\\ 
-And there was one more: the repeated exclamation,​ “My sex toy!”+And there was one more: the repeated exclamation,​ “My sex toy!”\\
 Suggestion played an even greater role in Tony’s enslavement by Denise.Her first suggestion to him was that brilliantly worded announcement,​ “You know, some day you’re gonna be my out-and-out sex slave.You’re gonna do every little thing I tell you, you’re gonna do it my way, and you’re gonna be happy about it.”It set him up not only to accept sexual slavery, but to like it. To be sure, most men who are sexually enslaved do like it, but Tony wasn’t one for liking anything or anyone, so telling him, “you’re gonna be happy about it,” was important. Suggestion played an even greater role in Tony’s enslavement by Denise.Her first suggestion to him was that brilliantly worded announcement,​ “You know, some day you’re gonna be my out-and-out sex slave.You’re gonna do every little thing I tell you, you’re gonna do it my way, and you’re gonna be happy about it.”It set him up not only to accept sexual slavery, but to like it. To be sure, most men who are sexually enslaved do like it, but Tony wasn’t one for liking anything or anyone, so telling him, “you’re gonna be happy about it,” was important.
 When she’d finished making him come by hand the first time, and discovered that he couldn’t stand to have the stimulation continued, she said, “You’re gonna be wanting me to do that for you again some day.” Though he argued with her agenda after she untied him, that suggestion helped bring him back for another go. When she’d finished making him come by hand the first time, and discovered that he couldn’t stand to have the stimulation continued, she said, “You’re gonna be wanting me to do that for you again some day.” Though he argued with her agenda after she untied him, that suggestion helped bring him back for another go.
  
-When she got her next shot at him, she displayed her pussy and said, “It’s gonna make you my slave.You’re gonna do everything I say, just because I’ve got this pussy between my legs and you know what a thrill it can give you.” +When she got her next shot at him, she displayed her pussy and said, “It’s gonna make you my slave.You’re gonna do everything I say, just because I’ve got this pussy between my legs and you know what a thrill it can give you.”\\ 
-When she then made it clear that she intended to follow through on her promise to keep playing with his cock longer than he liked, and he said he couldn’t believe it, she said, “I think it turns you on, too, knowing I’m not gonna stop and you have to come anyway.”+When she then made it clear that she intended to follow through on her promise to keep playing with his cock longer than he liked, and he said he couldn’t believe it, she said, “I think it turns you on, too, knowing I’m not gonna stop and you have to come anyway.”\\
 Before she said that, it hadn’t occurred to Tony to be turned on by that prospect.Though almost all men have the potential to be led into the Loop, most are unaware of the possibility until the first time it happens.Tony wasn’t yet turned on by the idea of being obviously unable to resist Denise; he was cooperating only because he found her extremely attractive and hoped to restore their relationship to normalcy.Her little speech suggested the Loop-told him what to feel. At the time, of course, Denise couldn’t be sure that Tony hadn’t fallen into the Loop himself-that was revealed months later, after she taught him how to engage in relaxed and intimate conversation-but if he had fallen in, what she said was still perfect for the situation since it would have fed the Loop by telling him she knew what he was feeling.On top of all that, she suggested the inevitability of his orgasm by presupposition,​ making it virtually impossible that he’d be able to resist. Before she said that, it hadn’t occurred to Tony to be turned on by that prospect.Though almost all men have the potential to be led into the Loop, most are unaware of the possibility until the first time it happens.Tony wasn’t yet turned on by the idea of being obviously unable to resist Denise; he was cooperating only because he found her extremely attractive and hoped to restore their relationship to normalcy.Her little speech suggested the Loop-told him what to feel. At the time, of course, Denise couldn’t be sure that Tony hadn’t fallen into the Loop himself-that was revealed months later, after she taught him how to engage in relaxed and intimate conversation-but if he had fallen in, what she said was still perfect for the situation since it would have fed the Loop by telling him she knew what he was feeling.On top of all that, she suggested the inevitability of his orgasm by presupposition,​ making it virtually impossible that he’d be able to resist.
 Immediately after that, she told him (referring to her intention to torture him), “Next time you’re gonna know, and you’re gonna let me tie you up anyway, and then we’re both gonna know it’s because you want it.” That suggested, first, that he was to cooperate with her agenda of tying him up yet again, and second, that he was to cultivate a positive attitude toward both being tied up and having the sensitivity of his cock toyed with.He was to develop an appreciation of the degree to which the scenario turned him on, and even a conscious desire to have it repeated. Immediately after that, she told him (referring to her intention to torture him), “Next time you’re gonna know, and you’re gonna let me tie you up anyway, and then we’re both gonna know it’s because you want it.” That suggested, first, that he was to cooperate with her agenda of tying him up yet again, and second, that he was to cultivate a positive attitude toward both being tied up and having the sensitivity of his cock toyed with.He was to develop an appreciation of the degree to which the scenario turned him on, and even a conscious desire to have it repeated.
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 When they got together again, it was obvious that Tony was no longer a stranger to the Loop.Denise tied him down and told him how turned on he was by his anticipation of what she was going to do to him, and the response of his cock proved her right. When they got together again, it was obvious that Tony was no longer a stranger to the Loop.Denise tied him down and told him how turned on he was by his anticipation of what she was going to do to him, and the response of his cock proved her right.
  
-“See?You do like it!I’m gonna have to do this sometimes after you’re my sex slave, it turns you on so much.Won’t that be something?​-being my sex slave, and me knowing you get a hard-on for having your dick rubbed and rubbed after you’re done coming.” +“See?You do like it!I’m gonna have to do this sometimes after you’re my sex slave, it turns you on so much.Won’t that be something?​-being my sex slave, and me knowing you get a hard-on for having your dick rubbed and rubbed after you’re done coming.”\\ 
-“You do like it!” is just a tease to a man who has enthusiastically accepted sexual slavery.To someone in Tony’s position, especially someone with Tony’s hostility, it’s a suggestion.His inclination might be to feel resentful of the way control of his body is being taken from him, and he might not infer from the reaction of his cock that he likes what’s happening.It helps to tell him.+“You do like it!” is just a tease to a man who has enthusiastically accepted sexual slavery.To someone in Tony’s position, especially someone with Tony’s hostility, it’s a suggestion.His inclination might be to feel resentful of the way control of his body is being taken from him, and he might not infer from the reaction of his cock that he likes what’s happening.It helps to tell him.\\
 Her last sentence implanted in his mind a fantasy that he was directed to nurture-just the sort of fantasy that makes the day-to-day experience of sexual slavery so continuously exciting. Her last sentence implanted in his mind a fantasy that he was directed to nurture-just the sort of fantasy that makes the day-to-day experience of sexual slavery so continuously exciting.
  
 She went on to tell him that when they repeated the same scenario yet again, he would be required to answer her question about how it made him feel. She went on to tell him that when they repeated the same scenario yet again, he would be required to answer her question about how it made him feel.
  
-“I mean, if you like it, tell me.If you’re embarrassed but it turns you on anyway, tell me that.”+“I mean, if you like it, tell me.If you’re embarrassed but it turns you on anyway, tell me that.”\\
 Her coaching suggested the right answer and directed him to cultivate a conscious awareness of what was happening to him.I’m embarrassed by the way I can’t help but turn on and by how obviously I keep seeking to repeat this scenario, and I’m turned on by the way she embarrasses me when I’m with her.Her coaching also demonstrated to Tony that the Loop can be spoken, and directed him to rehearse his own description so he could recite it to her on demand. Her coaching suggested the right answer and directed him to cultivate a conscious awareness of what was happening to him.I’m embarrassed by the way I can’t help but turn on and by how obviously I keep seeking to repeat this scenario, and I’m turned on by the way she embarrasses me when I’m with her.Her coaching also demonstrated to Tony that the Loop can be spoken, and directed him to rehearse his own description so he could recite it to her on demand.
  
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 At the other extreme, Linda enslaved Stephan with just one suggestion, but it was such a knockout that nothing else was necessary except the formality of inviting him to be hers. At the other extreme, Linda enslaved Stephan with just one suggestion, but it was such a knockout that nothing else was necessary except the formality of inviting him to be hers.
  
-“You know, you’ll never be able to fuck me like you used to after this, because now that we both know how excited you get at the thought of letting me see you lose control, you’ll get so embarrassed every time you try, it’ll make you come right away like you just did.”+“You know, you’ll never be able to fuck me like you used to after this, because now that we both know how excited you get at the thought of letting me see you lose control, you’ll get so embarrassed every time you try, it’ll make you come right away like you just did.”\\
 Suddenly she was the most exciting woman he had ever known.Of course, it helped that he was already in love with her, that he opened the opportunity by losing control, and that she had the presence of mind to recognize her chance and think so quickly of the right thing to say.Even with all that going for her, there was no guarantee that her words would have the desired effect; suggestions do sometimes fail.But she had nothing to lose and a great deal to gain, and it turned out that she succeeded perfectly. Suddenly she was the most exciting woman he had ever known.Of course, it helped that he was already in love with her, that he opened the opportunity by losing control, and that she had the presence of mind to recognize her chance and think so quickly of the right thing to say.Even with all that going for her, there was no guarantee that her words would have the desired effect; suggestions do sometimes fail.But she had nothing to lose and a great deal to gain, and it turned out that she succeeded perfectly.
  
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 We’ve already examined the most obvious reason for using this technique-the Loop.If the man is to be punished for responding, he’ll try not to.When he responds anyway, his inability to control himself embarrasses him.His embarrassment and his partner’s obvious enjoyment of it combine to turn him on all the more. We’ve already examined the most obvious reason for using this technique-the Loop.If the man is to be punished for responding, he’ll try not to.When he responds anyway, his inability to control himself embarrasses him.His embarrassment and his partner’s obvious enjoyment of it combine to turn him on all the more.
  
-We’ve seen how this can enhance the intimacy of a relationship,​ how it can intensify a man’s love for the woman who puts him through it, how it can lead to the sort of alteration of consciousness that men have sought from time immemorial.But even when all this has been explained, many a woman is skeptical. I recommend that she occasionally put her lover in restraints and tell him that if he lets himself come she’s going to play with the sensitivity of his cock, then bring him off and torture him; and she asks, “How could a man like that?Why would he let me do it more than once?”+We’ve seen how this can enhance the intimacy of a relationship,​ how it can intensify a man’s love for the woman who puts him through it, how it can lead to the sort of alteration of consciousness that men have sought from time immemorial.But even when all this has been explained, many a woman is skeptical. I recommend that she occasionally put her lover in restraints and tell him that if he lets himself come she’s going to play with the sensitivity of his cock, then bring him off and torture him; and she asks, “How could a man like that?Why would he let me do it more than once?”\\
 The answer to the first question is easy.He doesn’t like it.He finds the idea a tremendous turn-on until he comes, even until he’s drained, but only until then.The continued stimulation afterward is uncomfortable.The duration of his discomfort, though, is brief compared to the time the idea acts as a turn-on; and it’s the idea, not the actual torture, that fuels his fantasies between sessions. The answer to the first question is easy.He doesn’t like it.He finds the idea a tremendous turn-on until he comes, even until he’s drained, but only until then.The continued stimulation afterward is uncomfortable.The duration of his discomfort, though, is brief compared to the time the idea acts as a turn-on; and it’s the idea, not the actual torture, that fuels his fantasies between sessions.
  
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 When he arrived, we shared a hug and spent some time talking, gradually drifting from the doorway to our usual seats at the dining room table.In answer to his inquiry about my health, I gave him a sufficiently detailed account to let him know that any sexual contact between us would have to be limited. When he arrived, we shared a hug and spent some time talking, gradually drifting from the doorway to our usual seats at the dining room table.In answer to his inquiry about my health, I gave him a sufficiently detailed account to let him know that any sexual contact between us would have to be limited.
  
-When we’d brought one another up to date on the details of our lives, I stood up and headed for the living room. +When we’d brought one another up to date on the details of our lives, I stood up and headed for the living room.\\ 
-“Come on in here and get naked!I want to see my toy.”+“Come on in here and get naked!I want to see my toy.”\\
 I took a seat at one end of the couch.He got out of his clothes, then sat next to me and held my hand. I told him to lie down with his head on my lap, and he did. I took a seat at one end of the couch.He got out of his clothes, then sat next to me and held my hand. I told him to lie down with his head on my lap, and he did.
  
-“Remember when I told you I might want you to play with yourself while I watch, and you’d have to do it?” +“Remember when I told you I might want you to play with yourself while I watch, and you’d have to do it?”\\ 
-“Yeah?​” +“Yeah?”\\ 
-He’d learned that silence wouldn’t do. +He’d learned that silence wouldn’t do.\\ 
-“Well, this seems like the perfect time.” +“Well, this seems like the perfect time.”\\ 
-“I’m really not comfortable with that.” +“I’m really not comfortable with that.”\\ 
-“I know. It would embarrass you more than anything else we’ve done together, but you’re going to have to do it.” +“I know. It would embarrass you more than anything else we’ve done together, but you’re going to have to do it.”\\ 
-“It’s been a long time since we’ve seen each other.Wouldn’t you rather you play with me?We’d be a lot closer that way.” +“It’s been a long time since we’ve seen each other.Wouldn’t you rather you play with me?We’d be a lot closer that way.”\\ 
-“It’s a nice thought, sure!But I just want to watch.” +“It’s a nice thought, sure!But I just want to watch.”\\ 
-“Why?​” +“Why?”\\ 
-“Because it’ll embarrass you so much.Because I know that if it embarrasses you like that, you’ve never done it for another woman, and it’ll be something special between you and me.Because I want to be able to remind you that you did it, and how you have to do it again anytime I want, and see you get all embarrassed and turned on.” +“Because it’ll embarrass you so much.Because I know that if it embarrasses you like that, you’ve never done it for another woman, and it’ll be something special between you and me.Because I want to be able to remind you that you did it, and how you have to do it again anytime I want, and see you get all embarrassed and turned on.”\\ 
-The Loop.The idea made his cock grow with a little twitch. +The Loop.The idea made his cock grow with a little twitch.\\ 
-“Can we put it off for another time while I psych myself up?” +“Can we put it off for another time while I psych myself up?”\\ 
-“We’ll do it another time too, but I’ll tell you what.” +“We’ll do it another time too, but I’ll tell you what.”\\ 
-“What?”+“What?”\\
 “I’ll give you a chance to escape, just for today.We’ll play a little game to see who has to play with your cock.How does that sound?” “I’ll give you a chance to escape, just for today.We’ll play a little game to see who has to play with your cock.How does that sound?”
-“What kind of game?” +“What kind of game?”\\ 
-“We’ll stay here like this for a while, and if I can make your cock drip without touching it, you have to start playing with it right away and keep going until you come and you won’t argue any more.If you can keep it from dripping for twenty minutes, I’ll play with it today, but you’ll still have to do it another time.Okay?​” +“We’ll stay here like this for a while, and if I can make your cock drip without touching it, you have to start playing with it right away and keep going until you come and you won’t argue any more.If you can keep it from dripping for twenty minutes, I’ll play with it today, but you’ll still have to do it another time.Okay?​”\\ 
-“Okay.” +“Okay.”\\ 
-“Good.It’s 7:18. +“Good.It’s 7:18.\\ 
-“Hey, this isn’t working out badly at all!No matter who wins, I’m sure of getting to see that sexy fireworks display of yours, and you get to feel that yummy thrill that goes with it.” +“Hey, this isn’t working out badly at all!No matter who wins, I’m sure of getting to see that sexy fireworks display of yours, and you get to feel that yummy thrill that goes with it.”\\ 
-As I spoke I fixed my gaze on his cock.I loved it.I loved Patrick.I let all that love flow through me, and at the same time, I wondered what response I would see.A smile came to my face-the same smile that had had such a powerful effect on Drew in similar circumstances. +As I spoke I fixed my gaze on his cock.I loved it.I loved Patrick.I let all that love flow through me, and at the same time, I wondered what response I would see.A smile came to my face-the same smile that had had such a powerful effect on Drew in similar circumstances.\\ 
-Patrick’s cock grew rapidly and aimed itself upward. +Patrick’s cock grew rapidly and aimed itself upward.\\ 
-“Exciting thought, isn’t it?” +“Exciting thought, isn’t it?”\\ 
-“Yeah.” +“Yeah.”\\ 
-“You know, I really like the way your cock reacts to the idea that I’m going to watch it spurt.I mean, it’s neat that it turns you on, and it’s really neat that you can’t hide that it turns you on.” +“You know, I really like the way your cock reacts to the idea that I’m going to watch it spurt.I mean, it’s neat that it turns you on, and it’s really neat that you can’t hide that it turns you on.”\\ 
-I continued feeding the Loop with that kind of talk, and with almost constant staring at his cock, for eleven minutes.That’s how long it took for the first drop of fluid to make its way to where I could see it.When it appeared, I bent my head toward it and stared hard, not saying anything at first.Then I turned so we were face to face. +I continued feeding the Loop with that kind of talk, and with almost constant staring at his cock, for eleven minutes.That’s how long it took for the first drop of fluid to make its way to where I could see it.When it appeared, I bent my head toward it and stared hard, not saying anything at first.Then I turned so we were face to face.\\ 
-“What’s that?”I glanced back toward it to show him what I meant. +“What’s that?”I glanced back toward it to show him what I meant.\\ 
-“Nothing!”He said it emphatically but playfully and I loved him for it. +“Nothing!”He said it emphatically but playfully and I loved him for it.\\ 
-“Mm-hm!You’re dripping.You know what that means!” +“Mm-hm!You’re dripping.You know what that means!”\\ 
-“I guess so.”+“I guess so.”\\
 He did as he’d promised while I continued to tease him, and his orgasm was everything I’d been looking forward to-a spectacular show that left him totally embarrassed. He did as he’d promised while I continued to tease him, and his orgasm was everything I’d been looking forward to-a spectacular show that left him totally embarrassed.
  
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 Another interesting feature of those video games we looked at:When the player is defeated by a hazard, the machine generates sound effects and visuals that rub it in.The people who build the games discovered that a machine that produces such effects garners more coins than one that doesn’t. Another interesting feature of those video games we looked at:When the player is defeated by a hazard, the machine generates sound effects and visuals that rub it in.The people who build the games discovered that a machine that produces such effects garners more coins than one that doesn’t.
  
-I use the same principle in my lovemaking.When a man has an orgasm under circumstances that make for even a little bit of embarrassment,​ I add to his chagrin by teasing him about it, and I do it right then, while he’s coming.I always tease him if I’ve given him a reason to resist, I usually tease him if I get to watch him spurt, and I sometimes tease him even if he comes in my pussy, especially if something I’ve done makes him lose control unexpectedly or his experience is more intense than he’s comfortable with.+I use the same principle in my lovemaking.When a man has an orgasm under circumstances that make for even a little bit of embarrassment,​ I add to his chagrin by teasing him about it, and I do it right then, while he’s coming.I always tease him if I’ve given him a reason to resist, I usually tease him if I get to watch him spurt, and I sometimes tease him even if he comes in my pussy, especially if something I’ve done makes him lose control unexpectedly or his experience is more intense than he’s comfortable with.\\
 I’m not merely trying to emulate a video game, nor is it just that I love teasing (though of course I do).I want to leave my partner no doubt that I know what he’s thinking and feeling, and teasing does that.More important still, I tease him because I know that later, when he’s alone, he’ll conjure up the memory of what I said, the sound of my voice, and he’ll relive his embarrassment.He’ll turn on, if only a little, and love me for being such a tease.A man is rarely so open and vulnerable as he is at orgasm, so it’s the perfect time to make a memory. I’m not merely trying to emulate a video game, nor is it just that I love teasing (though of course I do).I want to leave my partner no doubt that I know what he’s thinking and feeling, and teasing does that.More important still, I tease him because I know that later, when he’s alone, he’ll conjure up the memory of what I said, the sound of my voice, and he’ll relive his embarrassment.He’ll turn on, if only a little, and love me for being such a tease.A man is rarely so open and vulnerable as he is at orgasm, so it’s the perfect time to make a memory.
  
-Time.As we’ve seen, orgasm isn’t compressed into a single instant, but spans two distinct stages, each of which lasts a number of seconds.During the first stage, the urethra has begun to fill with semen and the man knows that ejaculation is inevitable, but the thrill of the first spurt hasn’t yet hit.The second stage begins with that first spurt and, just by virtue of being so spectacular,​ offers a great deal of raw material for teasing.A man can be teased about having an obscene display made of his ejaculation,​ the intensity of the pleasure and embarrassment he can’t help but feel, the thrusting of his hips, the motion of his cock-there’s a lot happening!+Time.As we’ve seen, orgasm isn’t compressed into a single instant, but spans two distinct stages, each of which lasts a number of seconds.During the first stage, the urethra has begun to fill with semen and the man knows that ejaculation is inevitable, but the thrill of the first spurt hasn’t yet hit.The second stage begins with that first spurt and, just by virtue of being so spectacular,​ offers a great deal of raw material for teasing.A man can be teased about having an obscene display made of his ejaculation,​ the intensity of the pleasure and embarrassment he can’t help but feel, the thrusting of his hips, the motion of his cock-there’s a lot happening!\\
 It’s best to start your teasing early-by the second spurt if possible.Your partner is most sensitive to it then.The first couple of spurts shatter his defenses, open him up, keep him from starting to rebuild.Also,​ a good tease will have a profound effect on his emotions all through the rest of his orgasm; if you hit him with it early, you color the entire experience, including the part that’s naturally most intense. It’s best to start your teasing early-by the second spurt if possible.Your partner is most sensitive to it then.The first couple of spurts shatter his defenses, open him up, keep him from starting to rebuild.Also,​ a good tease will have a profound effect on his emotions all through the rest of his orgasm; if you hit him with it early, you color the entire experience, including the part that’s naturally most intense.
  
 It should come as no surprise, then, that the most powerful teasing is that which is done during the first stage of orgasm, before ejaculation begins.It’s not just the timing, though.A special kind of teasing belongs here-a kind of teasing that blows a man’s mind completely. It should come as no surprise, then, that the most powerful teasing is that which is done during the first stage of orgasm, before ejaculation begins.It’s not just the timing, though.A special kind of teasing belongs here-a kind of teasing that blows a man’s mind completely.
  
-“You’re losing it, Patty!” +“You’re losing it, Patty!”\\ 
-O my God, she knows!+O my God, she knows!\\
 His effort to hold off his ejaculation wasn’t casual. His whole being was focused on it, about to be swept away by that final loss of control.And even though he knew he was coming, he clung to the belief that it wasn’t over because I didn’t know.After all, I wasn’t in his head; I wasn’t in his cock; I hadn’t yet seen him spurt.As long as he could keep that from happening, he had a chance. His effort to hold off his ejaculation wasn’t casual. His whole being was focused on it, about to be swept away by that final loss of control.And even though he knew he was coming, he clung to the belief that it wasn’t over because I didn’t know.After all, I wasn’t in his head; I wasn’t in his cock; I hadn’t yet seen him spurt.As long as he could keep that from happening, he had a chance.
  
 Then I teased him and suddenly I was in there with him-in his head, in his cock-I had got myself all the way into his soul.He was coming and I knew he was coming.I was sharing his struggle to hold off the first spurt, sharing his tingle, sharing his embarrassment.The display of his ejaculation for my amusement would still be humiliating,​ but it was no longer the criterion by which we would know I had made him come.The tease showed him that delaying the first spurt by a few seconds wasn’t enough to hide what was happening, not even for those few seconds. I knew him too intimately for that.I had confronted him with proof, when he was least able to deal with it, that I understood the secrets of his sexuality better than he had imagined any woman ever could Then I teased him and suddenly I was in there with him-in his head, in his cock-I had got myself all the way into his soul.He was coming and I knew he was coming.I was sharing his struggle to hold off the first spurt, sharing his tingle, sharing his embarrassment.The display of his ejaculation for my amusement would still be humiliating,​ but it was no longer the criterion by which we would know I had made him come.The tease showed him that delaying the first spurt by a few seconds wasn’t enough to hide what was happening, not even for those few seconds. I knew him too intimately for that.I had confronted him with proof, when he was least able to deal with it, that I understood the secrets of his sexuality better than he had imagined any woman ever could
-.+
 And then, with all that going on inside him, he lost the contraction and spurted.What a thrill! And then, with all that going on inside him, he lost the contraction and spurted.What a thrill!
  
-Though it may be less obvious, the same thing happened to Tony the second time Denise tortured him.Just before he started to spurt, she hit him with, “Ooh, you’re gonna be sorry you let go!”+Though it may be less obvious, the same thing happened to Tony the second time Denise tortured him.Just before he started to spurt, she hit him with, “Ooh, you’re gonna be sorry you let go!”\\
 He already knew that. He had clearly consented to Denise’s agenda, which was that she would bring him to orgasm and then torture him.Still, he couldn’t help but be anxious about the degree of distress and embarrassment she might inflict, and her tease was directed to that anxiety.Since the anxiety would still be there after his ejaculation was under way, she could have waited until then to tease him.Indeed the first time she tortured him, she had done just that, even using a similar line-“Ooh,​ you know what happens now!” He already knew that. He had clearly consented to Denise’s agenda, which was that she would bring him to orgasm and then torture him.Still, he couldn’t help but be anxious about the degree of distress and embarrassment she might inflict, and her tease was directed to that anxiety.Since the anxiety would still be there after his ejaculation was under way, she could have waited until then to tease him.Indeed the first time she tortured him, she had done just that, even using a similar line-“Ooh,​ you know what happens now!”
  
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 The first time Francesca let go of Roy’s cock as he started to come, she teased him about the show he was going to give her. The first time Francesca let go of Roy’s cock as he started to come, she teased him about the show he was going to give her.
-“What I get to see!”+“What I get to see!”\\
 It was a good tease, but it would have been even better if it had come a few seconds earlier.The way it actually went, she started speaking as Roy’s muscles relaxed in preparation for the first spurt.She waited that long because she wasn’t sure she could recognize the onset of ejaculatory inevitability and because she didn’t yet understand how much more intense Roy’s experience would be if she spoke sooner. It was a good tease, but it would have been even better if it had come a few seconds earlier.The way it actually went, she started speaking as Roy’s muscles relaxed in preparation for the first spurt.She waited that long because she wasn’t sure she could recognize the onset of ejaculatory inevitability and because she didn’t yet understand how much more intense Roy’s experience would be if she spoke sooner.
 By removing her hand and saying the same thing just as his cock reached maximum stiffness, she would have catapulted him suddenly into a trip very much like Patrick’s.Faced with the prospect of having to ejaculate with nothing holding his cock, he would have made a desperate attempt to regain control.It would have been impossible, and he would have had several very long seconds in which to experience the conflict between his egoistic compulsion to save himself from embarrassment and his physical need to ejaculate.During that time, he would have been acutely aware that his cock was sticking up, not just in a normal state of erection but obscenely, and that if he relaxed the muscles that held it that way, even for a moment, they’d immediately contract again and his cock would bounce back up and spurt.Not only that, but he would have felt Francesca in there with him the whole time, fully aware of what he was going through and intending every bit of it. By removing her hand and saying the same thing just as his cock reached maximum stiffness, she would have catapulted him suddenly into a trip very much like Patrick’s.Faced with the prospect of having to ejaculate with nothing holding his cock, he would have made a desperate attempt to regain control.It would have been impossible, and he would have had several very long seconds in which to experience the conflict between his egoistic compulsion to save himself from embarrassment and his physical need to ejaculate.During that time, he would have been acutely aware that his cock was sticking up, not just in a normal state of erection but obscenely, and that if he relaxed the muscles that held it that way, even for a moment, they’d immediately contract again and his cock would bounce back up and spurt.Not only that, but he would have felt Francesca in there with him the whole time, fully aware of what he was going through and intending every bit of it.
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 Powerful as this sort of tease is, you’re unlikely to use it often.I don’t.It’s appropriate only when a man is restrained and has a reason to resist coming.Most lovemaking-even most of my lovemaking-isn’t like that.Bondage involves a fair amount of work, and few women have Francesca’s motivation to do all that work every time.Besides,​ we all like variety and spontaneity in our lovemaking and a steady diet of bondage limits that. Powerful as this sort of tease is, you’re unlikely to use it often.I don’t.It’s appropriate only when a man is restrained and has a reason to resist coming.Most lovemaking-even most of my lovemaking-isn’t like that.Bondage involves a fair amount of work, and few women have Francesca’s motivation to do all that work every time.Besides,​ we all like variety and spontaneity in our lovemaking and a steady diet of bondage limits that.
  
-Usually then, when you tease your partner during his climax, it will be after he’s started to ejaculate.To get a clear picture of the effect this produces, let’s review the teases of this type that we’ve seen so far.+Usually then, when you tease your partner during his climax, it will be after he’s started to ejaculate.To get a clear picture of the effect this produces, let’s review the teases of this type that we’ve seen so far.\\
 As soon as Patrick lost it, I teased him again. As soon as Patrick lost it, I teased him again.
  
-“Ooh, sperm!”+“Ooh, sperm!”\\
 I was confident that I had a good read on his emotional reality.He felt as though he had been tied up by a teenage girl who was making him have an orgasm to satisfy her curiosity about what she would see.My tease hooked that feeling.It was just what I might have exclaimed if I had actually been a curious teenager who had heard a description of the process of ejaculation but never witnessed it. I was confident that I had a good read on his emotional reality.He felt as though he had been tied up by a teenage girl who was making him have an orgasm to satisfy her curiosity about what she would see.My tease hooked that feeling.It was just what I might have exclaimed if I had actually been a curious teenager who had heard a description of the process of ejaculation but never witnessed it.
 Even if I was wrong about his emotional reality, it was a good tease for the circumstances.Not only do I get to make you feel this delicious thrill whenever I want, I get to know exactly when you’re feeling it.Because even if you manage to lie perfectly still, you splash that white goop all over.My Obvious enthusiasm gave him cause to worry that he’d be put on display in the same humiliating way again and again. Even if I was wrong about his emotional reality, it was a good tease for the circumstances.Not only do I get to make you feel this delicious thrill whenever I want, I get to know exactly when you’re feeling it.Because even if you manage to lie perfectly still, you splash that white goop all over.My Obvious enthusiasm gave him cause to worry that he’d be put on display in the same humiliating way again and again.
 I wanted Patrick to have a full album of memories by which to remember his enslavement,​ so I heaped another tease on top of that. I wanted Patrick to have a full album of memories by which to remember his enslavement,​ so I heaped another tease on top of that.
-“That must feel so good!”+“That must feel so good!”\\
 Orgasms are like that. Despite his anxiety about the impending torture, Patrick couldn’t help but feel the pleasure I’d forced on him.I knew, and it added to his embarrassment. Orgasms are like that. Despite his anxiety about the impending torture, Patrick couldn’t help but feel the pleasure I’d forced on him.I knew, and it added to his embarrassment.
  
-The first time Denise tied Tony to his bed and made him come by hand, she said, “Uh-huh! All over you!”+The first time Denise tied Tony to his bed and made him come by hand, she said, “Uh-huh! All over you!”\\
 One of the reasons a man is so embarrassed when you tie him down and bring him off by hand is that the wet reminds him, at a deep psychological level, of the accidents he had during his toilet training.What Denise said to Tony was aimed at that association.I don’t recommend this sort of tease unless you’re sure your partner won’t take it badly.It isn’t really necessary because he knows he’s wetting himself whether you mention it or not, so teasing him about some other aspect of the scene, such as the show he’s giving you, is no less embarrassing.If you imply that he’s soiling himself, he’s likely to conclude that you regard his semen as dirty.Almost any man will be put off by that, the Loop notwithstanding. He’ll take it as a rejection of his physical self and infer that you don’t love him or even that you dislike him. One of the reasons a man is so embarrassed when you tie him down and bring him off by hand is that the wet reminds him, at a deep psychological level, of the accidents he had during his toilet training.What Denise said to Tony was aimed at that association.I don’t recommend this sort of tease unless you’re sure your partner won’t take it badly.It isn’t really necessary because he knows he’s wetting himself whether you mention it or not, so teasing him about some other aspect of the scene, such as the show he’s giving you, is no less embarrassing.If you imply that he’s soiling himself, he’s likely to conclude that you regard his semen as dirty.Almost any man will be put off by that, the Loop notwithstanding. He’ll take it as a rejection of his physical self and infer that you don’t love him or even that you dislike him.
  
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 The first time Linda tied Stephan down and he came just as she was putting his cock inside her, she commented on it right away. The first time Linda tied Stephan down and he came just as she was putting his cock inside her, she commented on it right away.
-“Oh, how embarrassing!” +“Oh, how embarrassing!”\\ 
-She knew it was, and she knew that that remark would make it even more so. +She knew it was, and she knew that that remark would make it even more so.\\ 
-“Wow! I can feel every little twitch!”+“Wow! I can feel every little twitch!”\\
 O my God!Of course she can.She’s not moving; she’s not all worked up; she’s just sitting there savoring the feel of my cock throbbing in her pussy.She made me come before I wanted to, and I’m so embarrassed,​ and she’s entertaining herself with my come and my embarrassment and teasing me about it. O my God!Of course she can.She’s not moving; she’s not all worked up; she’s just sitting there savoring the feel of my cock throbbing in her pussy.She made me come before I wanted to, and I’m so embarrassed,​ and she’s entertaining herself with my come and my embarrassment and teasing me about it.
  
-The next time they fucked and he lost control like that, she echoed the same tease. +The next time they fucked and he lost control like that, she echoed the same tease.\\ 
-“I get to feel it again!Every little twitch!”+“I get to feel it again!Every little twitch!”\\
 The first three words let him know that she was pleased with the way things were turning out, that she was happy that his loss of control was giving her another opportunity to relaxedly enjoy the sensation of his come.He was embarrassed,​ and he knew that she knew he was embarrassed,​ and she wasn’t doing anything to relieve his embarrassment;​ instead she was making it more intense by so obviously reveling in his situation. The first three words let him know that she was pleased with the way things were turning out, that she was happy that his loss of control was giving her another opportunity to relaxedly enjoy the sensation of his come.He was embarrassed,​ and he knew that she knew he was embarrassed,​ and she wasn’t doing anything to relieve his embarrassment;​ instead she was making it more intense by so obviously reveling in his situation.
  
-She spoke as soon as he started to spurt, so he knew she wasn’t talking about what she had already felt happen inside her, as she had the first time, but she was instead expressing enthusiasm for what would inevitably follow.Now that you’ve started to come, I get to feel every twitch.You can’t stop until you’re done, and you can’t pull out even though you’re not restrained this time, because it’s in your nature that once you start coming you want to be all the way inside me even more than you want to escape your embarrassment.Besides,​ if you pulled out, I could move myself around to where I could watch the rest of your come, and that would be even worse.+She spoke as soon as he started to spurt, so he knew she wasn’t talking about what she had already felt happen inside her, as she had the first time, but she was instead expressing enthusiasm for what would inevitably follow.Now that you’ve started to come, I get to feel every twitch.You can’t stop until you’re done, and you can’t pull out even though you’re not restrained this time, because it’s in your nature that once you start coming you want to be all the way inside me even more than you want to escape your embarrassment.Besides,​ if you pulled out, I could move myself around to where I could watch the rest of your come, and that would be even worse.\\
 Did she really think all that when she spoke those nine words?Of course not.But every bit of it and more went through his head when he heard them, even as he came.It made for a truly overwhelming experience and an extremely strong bond of affection, and it undoubtedly contributed to his decision to spend the rest of his life as her love slave. Did she really think all that when she spoke those nine words?Of course not.But every bit of it and more went through his head when he heard them, even as he came.It made for a truly overwhelming experience and an extremely strong bond of affection, and it undoubtedly contributed to his decision to spend the rest of his life as her love slave.
  
 One more-this one from just after Linda and Stephan were married, when she tied him down again, put his cock in her pussy once more, and made him lose control the same way. One more-this one from just after Linda and Stephan were married, when she tied him down again, put his cock in her pussy once more, and made him lose control the same way.
  
-“Ooh! Exciting, isn’t it?”+“Ooh! Exciting, isn’t it?”\\
 Not every tease has to be a work of creative genius.Almost any tease will make a memory, and a tease that’s reasonably consistent with your partner’s thoughts and feelings (as this one certainly was) will make him feel you’ve found your way inside all his thoughts and feelings. Not every tease has to be a work of creative genius.Almost any tease will make a memory, and a tease that’s reasonably consistent with your partner’s thoughts and feelings (as this one certainly was) will make him feel you’ve found your way inside all his thoughts and feelings.
 And that’s what teasing is about-making your partner feel that he’s known as intimately as a person can be, and making memories.It works.If you used to think that all teasing is bad, I hope you’re reconsidering.Teasing can be done lovingly, with no trace of hostility, and without inflicting pain.It’s a natural part of making love. And that’s what teasing is about-making your partner feel that he’s known as intimately as a person can be, and making memories.It works.If you used to think that all teasing is bad, I hope you’re reconsidering.Teasing can be done lovingly, with no trace of hostility, and without inflicting pain.It’s a natural part of making love.
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 In actual fact, men hasten to disentangle themselves from her even more rapidly than she, from them.They find her style of lovemaking unsatisfying and quickly come to regard her as a kook.A typical encounter, described from the perspective of my friend’s lover, went like this: In actual fact, men hasten to disentangle themselves from her even more rapidly than she, from them.They find her style of lovemaking unsatisfying and quickly come to regard her as a kook.A typical encounter, described from the perspective of my friend’s lover, went like this:
  
-After she tied me to the bed and mounted me, she put her hands on her hips and starting bouncing up and down and talking about how I was falling in love with her. was saying, “you,” but she really seemed to be talking to herself, and she was looking straight ahead at the wall.I couldn’t get into her rhythm, either; it was choppy, more like a machine than a woman.I figured I’d better try to go along, so I got off by thinking about someone else.When I did, she said, “Made you come!” and let out a cackle.I guess it was supposed to be a giggle, but it was kind of loud and crazy-sounding.She was so weird that when she untied me without hurting me, I was surprised.+After she tied me to the bed and mounted me, she put her hands on her hips and starting bouncing up and down and talking about how I was falling in love with her. was saying, “you,” but she really seemed to be talking to herself, and she was looking straight ahead at the wall.I couldn’t get into her rhythm, either; it was choppy, more like a machine than a woman.I figured I’d better try to go along, so I got off by thinking about someone else.When I did, she said, “Made you come!” and let out a cackle.I guess it was supposed to be a giggle, but it was kind of loud and crazy-sounding.She was so weird that when she untied me without hurting me, I was surprised.\\
 Of course that’s a paraphrase, and my friend had to ask a few questions to elicit the details, but I’m sure it’s substantially accurate; it’s consistent with everything else I’ve heard about Killer. Of course that’s a paraphrase, and my friend had to ask a few questions to elicit the details, but I’m sure it’s substantially accurate; it’s consistent with everything else I’ve heard about Killer.
  
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