I don't need to argue here about the importance of great sex to the health of a romantic relationship. We've all seen TV shows and movies that portray sex and passion as uber-racy, with bodies writhing in satin sheets under perfectly dimmed lighting, as if little elves had benevolently prepped the room for a one-two-three orgasm.
But if sex and romance are overvalued, oral sex is all too frequently undervalued in the media and culture at large. Still occasionally stigmatized as “dirtier” than straight-up sex, the power of oral sex for sustaining and deepening a romantic relationship often gets overlooked. Sharing pleasure, as in intercourse, and giving pleasure have very different effects on a relationship, simply because they have very different effects on your partner. Being able to give pleasure to your partner, unselfishly and lovingly, can be very important and plays a different role in your interpersonal dynamic. Oral sex is special in that it makes the other person feel cared for, tended to, and looked after. If actions speak louder than words, oral sex is like speaking through a megaphone when you tell your partner that you like and enjoy them.
For the basics on cunnilingus we suggest you read our pussy eating 101 article
One of the questions I’m regularly asked by virgins interested in Femdom, is I don’t know how to eat pussy. I keep saying don’t worry she will make it clear what she likes, and dislikes. But then it dawned on me, some time in the heat of passion with my subs, while they are going down on me..I forget to say what I like due to being ‘lost in the moment’ it made me realize this silly sounding question is not as silly as it first sounded, and perhaps a short page on this juicy topic is needed. After all a there is nothing wrong with a man, let alone a submissive man being confident in Cunnilingus, hell even some experienced submissives could use a hand.
EXERCISES TO INCREASE HER ORAL PLEASURE
Recently I was talking with a fellow Domme who was telling me of her newest pleasure . A submissive who whom has oral skills that have blown her away, so much so she has nicked him super mouth.
So what transformed this mere mortal into an oral superman? Have you guessed yet? Of all things, Super mouth was trained as a speech therapist. As a few many know my middle child has speech problems and has been involved in speech therapy (with me) for a number of years. Of course! all the mouth exercises will help you gain a new mastery over your lips and tongue, why didn't it ever dawn on me before of the possible uses when combined with a Femdom training and a twist. I returned to my speech pathologist friend with new interest in other uses for the topic at hand.
GROUND RULES FOR ORAL SEX
you will always have to customize oral sex for your Mistress each person has a distinct set of preferences, and there's no getting around that. But regardless of who your partner is, there are some base guidelines that lay the foundation for great oral sex.
POSITIONS FOR ORAL SEX
Bad form is often the difference between success and failure. Porn films would have us believe that any position is the right position: up against the wall, on top of a table, hanging off the bed, hanging off the rafters—the wilder the better. But it should come as no surprise that with bad tittles, the porn industry, in general, shies away from the lofty aesthetics of cinema vérité.
First and foremost, expert cunnilingus needs to be delivered from a position that enables the giver to comfortably apply persistent, rhythmic pressure over time while the receiver relaxes into the nuances of arousal.
Not surprisingly, one of the main reasons why men say they don't perform cunnilingus more often is the physical strain—in short, the pain of being in the wrong position. So if your attitude toward cunnilingus is “no pain, no gain,” the sentiment is appreciated, but entirely unnecessary.
it would be a cause for celebration if we were born with the l and intuitive set of sexual skills that we all pretend we have. Without stating it outright, our culture—via our parents, the media, and our peers—implies that sex and sexual skills should come naturally, with all but the most advanced techniques being somehow instinctive. You'd never expect someone to hit a perfect tennis serve without lessons and practice or to play a beautiful sonata on an instrument they've only touched a couple of times, yet somehow, most of us come to maturity with the expectation that sexual skills will magically develop in the presence of our naked lover, that this lover will likewise experience a spontaneous onset of spectacular proficiency, and that it will all unfurl as smoothly as a movie montage.
TOYS FOR ORAL ENHANCEMENT
devices can be used to rocket oral sex into the next stratosphere. Vibrators, Dildos, and Other Miscellany for Misbehaving. Don't knock sex toys until you've seen what they can do. Our article contains hints and tips you may, or may not enjoy.
Article: tomcat (Edited: in conjunction with MissBonnie and MissBitch)for the beginners guide to oral sex © CollarNuffs.com