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One of the most interesting BDSM plays remains self-bondage

when you restrain yourself with the help of ropes or other devices for a certain period of time. Those who practice self-bondage have a good opportunity to practice restraining techniques and immovability for a long period.

Strict versus sensual

A distinction can be made between strict and sensual self-bondage. In sensual self-bondage, escape from restraints is simple and available immediately, if desired. For example, the keys might be within reach or the knots loosely tied. The chief aim is the sensation of immobility and of constrained movement. Strict self-bondage, by contrast, requires that the means of escape is unavailable for a period of time and the person must remain in bondage until the release mechanism is activated, regardless of whether or not they would voluntarily continue the scene further if they had the choice. Although strict self-bondage is potentially more hazardous, some practice it for the greater feeling of helplessness.

There is an alternative approach sometimes recommended which takes the middle ground, and achieves a compromise between safety and strictness. The method is to use a backup release mechanism that is available immediately, but carries with it some penalty or cost with its use. For example, keys could be placed in a bucket of paint. The person in self-bondage can escape quickly if necessary, such as a fire breaking out, or excessive numbness of limbs. However, the annoyance of cleaning up the paint afterwards would coerce the person into waiting for the main release mechanism to come into effect if they were merely bored or uncomfortable.

Self-bondage is considered a higher risk activity than many other BDSM practices - particularly when combined with autoerotic asphyxia - and has led to many recorded deaths. It is estimated that there are 500 to 1,000 autoerotic fatalities each year in the United States (number correct at time of publishing), of which a substantial proportion include self-bondage as a factor.

Self-bondage has all the risks of physical restraint and sexual bondage, with the added factor that should anything go wrong, there is no-one to effect a rescue. For example, if blood circulation cuts off sensation in limbs, the planned escape mechanism may not be usable. Here is a link to related deaths, this is a page that I do urge you to read, accidents can and do happen

Despite this, many practitioners insist that self-bondage can be performed relatively safely if it is conducted with a view to minimising risk. Common safety advice includes measures such as:

  • Abstaining from “strict” self-bondage entirely (see below)
  • Avoiding anything that might restrict breathing, such as restraints on the chest or neck, or gags
  • Using multiple release mechanisms as a backup in case one fails
  • Ensuring that assistance can be called for if needed, or arranging for someone to check at a specified time
  • Avoiding anything that can cause limbs to go numb or cut off circulation, such as metal handcuffs or overly tight ropes
  • Building up the complexity of the bondage slowly over several sessions, and only adding elements one at a time
  • Abstaining from substances that might impair judgment, such as alcohol
  • Before engaging in self-bondage, make certain that anything which can cause a fire or a choking hazard say a gas stove, are not in play.
  • Spending only small amounts of time per bondage session. Some people enjoy overnight bondage, and this is the maximum one should try alone.

One of the biggest issues for self-bondage is safety and learning the methods for release especially when you don't have anyone to help you. I have sourced a few links This may be of help if you do fully intend to peruse this practice has an informative forum shared with other like mind enthusiasts all sharing ideas, scene plans and most of all safety tips. This site contains information and safety tips concerning Bondage and Self Bondage. The site is a wiki based database of knowledge, both for safety and techniques of Self Bondage and of normal Bondage. Also included here are sections where members can submit their own stories and experiences

When practicing self bondage a time limit is set for safety and pleasure reasons. The self-bondage session may last from some half an hour, several hours to several days (which is not recommended) that’s why it's important to evaluate how long do you plan to spend in bondage. The time limit is introduced by many ways, and you can also invent your own way to escape after bondage.

Release method

Caution is very important to make sure this session won't be the last. First of all the session is usually planned beforehand. The way you are going to free yourself may vary depending on your imagination and safety precautions, but it's highly advisable to have some tools handy always like a knife and scissors under the pillow. Of course having a partner nearby is of great help in self bondage cause then you can be surer of your safety. Many release mechanisms are used in self-bondage to allow the practitioner to escape the restraints after a period of time. There are various trade-offs to be made between ease of use, reliability, precision of timing, cost, and so forth. There should be several mechanisms available, thus ensuring redundancy and safety.

Ice cubes:

Ice cubes are commonly used in release mechanisms. One method - there are many variants, but the principle is the same - is to place ice in a sock and slide a key ring over it. The sock is then attached to an out-of-reach place. When the ice melts, the keys fall, allowing escape. Advantages include simplicity and reliability (ice is easily obtained, and inevitably melts). The disadvantage is that it can be difficult to gauge precisely how long a scenario will last, although some enjoy the uncertainty.

Ice locks:

Parts of ice locks are frozen together and do move until the ice has melted down. Can be used alone (to lock a person to a stationary object) or in combination with tightening devices (to keep the tension for a certain period of time) Combination lock: Combination locks can be used as release mechanisms. There are two approaches: those that rely on the time needed to try every possibility for an unknown combination, and those that rely on light in order to see to enter the known combination correctly.

Unknown combination:

The idea is that the lock is reset to an unknown combination, and then used to lock the bondage in place. The person must find the correct combination by trial and error. A three digit combination lock contains a thousand possibilities. At a second per attempt, this would take approximately 15 minutes. For a four-digit lock, it is nearer two hours. Disadvantages include the fact that it may be distracting to actively “crack” the lock.

In darkness:

Even if the number is known, for many locks, it is not possible to enter the combination without being able to see the faces of the dials. This release mechanism relies on darkness. The light can be provided either by the morning sunlight, or, preferably, through a light on a timer switch. The advantages include a large amount of control over how long the bondage lasts (with a timer), and a backup of the onset of daylight. The disadvantages are only being able to use the technique at night, and having to perform the bondage in the dark.


Electromagnets can be used to release keys after a delay. If combined with electronics or a computer, a large amount of control is possible over the timing, and the mechanism is somewhat “fail-safe” - if power fails, the key will fall early. Disadvantages include complexity and cost. The powerful electromagnets used in door locks can also be adapted for use directly as restraints.

Soldering Irons:

Soldering Irons can be used, in conjunction with a timing mechanism, to cut a nylon rope, or to release keys. The use of a delivery/messenger service or regular mail in order to obtain the object (usually key/keys) needed in order to become released. This relies on the delivery service being 100% efficient. There is also a number of release mechanisms designed to be emergency backups. The idea behind these release mechanisms is that triggering them will cause something undesirable to happen, and thus be only used in situations where death or serious injury could occur otherwise.

Paint tin:

A backup key is stored in a tin of paint, ink or motor oil in such a way that recovering the key will cause the contents of the container to spill, causing costly damage to a carpet or other possessions. This mechanism can be used for extremely quick release in an emergency such as a fire.

Unpleasant drink:

An unpleasant liquid, such as urine, is stored in a container. The key is only released when the contents of the container has been drunk (it should be designed so that the contents can not be spilled. The idea is to make the drink so unpleasant that it will only be considered as a last resort.


A friend or relative is notified to come over at a certain time (that time being after the bondage session is planned to end). The friend may or may not be aware of the bondage, and thus the rescue may be embarrassing. An alternative is to position a phone somewhere that is accessible during the bondage, so that a friend or the emergency services may be called if the planned release mechanisms fail


Self-bondage is considered to be quite dangerous as if a person stays completely alone there is a greater risk. You should be both very confident and think over every detail especially about release or at least have someone to help you.

  • Avoid extreme restrain - if you are trying self-bondage for the first time it's better to begin with simple technique where you can escape easily.
  • Try not to use collars, gags and other devices that can restrict circulation on very sensitive areas or block breathing.
  • Have several methods of release so that in case one method fails you can use another.


Apart from release mechanisms, self-bondage poses a somewhat awkward problem of getting into bondage, especially when using rope. What might be a relatively simple matter for couples can be considerably more complex alone? With rope, the main difficulty is tying the hands in a way that is not easy to untie. One common solution is to use a cinch noose - essentially a kind of slip knot - together with a coil (a loop of rope). The wrists are placed through the coil with the cinch noose between the wrists and around the coil. To achieve a basic hogtie position, the cinch noose is tied to the ankles. With pressure, the noose tightens the wrist coil, securing the hands. It proves very difficult to escape from, and usually a knife or scissors is required to cut free. Equipment that can be tightened only, and not loosened, often has application in self-bondage. This includes handcuffs, zip ties and pulleys.

Commercial equipment

While for the most part self-bondage is performed using ordinary and easily available equipment (indeed, it lends itself to impromptu adaptation and a “do it yourself” approach), a few commercial products have appeared - in the United States for the most part - catering for the self-bondage practitioner.

WE do not encourage self bondage here at, and this reference/resource sheet is by NO means meant to by used as a ‘how too guide’ We are also not endorsing the referenced links, practicians of self bondage do so at own personal risk. If you choose to peruse this endeavour please source you own reference material which may be more current in safety aspects, hints and tips USE INFORMATION YOU FIND HERE ENTIRELY AT YOUR OWN RISK

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