Why Use Vibrators?

Vibrators often allow people to achieve orgasm rapidly and with relative ease as compared to other methods. In addition, vibrators are reported[ to provide stronger orgasms than those produced by manual stimulation alone. They are often recommended by sex therapists for women who have difficulty reaching orgasm by other means. Couples also use them sometimes as an enhancement to the pleasure of one or both partners.
Some vibrators are marketed as “body massager’s” — although they still may be used, like the ones sold as adult sex toys, for autoeroticism.
Some vibrators run on batteries while others have a power cord that plugs in to a wall socket. There is also a vibrator that uses the flow of air from a vacuum cleaner to stimulate the clitoris.

There is a lot of pressure to be sexual in the “right” way, and some people feel like they should use a vibrator. The fact is that you can have an incredible sex life without vibrators or sex toys at all. That said, using vibrators is a completely healthy (and potentially pleasure inducing) way to explore your sexuality.

There are as many reasons to use a vibrator as there are reasons to feel good. Here are some of the most common reasons people play with vibrators:

  • Curiosity: Sexual curiosity is healthy; wanting to try a vibrator is reason enough to try one.
  • Self-discovery: Particularly for those of us who have never been given the opportunity or permission to explore being sexual, vibrators can be a great way to explore your body. When using a vibrator by yourself you can start exploring yourself, your sensations (both physical and emotional) and reactions in a relatively safe environment.
  • To “spice up” a long term sexual relationship:Vibrators can shake things up (literally and figuratively) in a long term relationship if sex has become routine or exploration has fizzled out.
  • To experience orgasm for the first time: For many people, especially women, who never or rarely experience orgasm, vibration can be the fastest and easiest way to discover their orgasmic potential.
  • For extra stimulation that you can’t add on your own: Many people aren’t able to stimulate themselves the way they want to.
  • Chronic ‘bad styled’ pain: disability, and fatigue don’t stop you from feeling pleasure, but vibrators can sometimes make it easier to get there.
  • For fun: For the most part the reason we all use, or consider using, vibrators is the same: because it’s pleasurable. Pleasure, however you define it, is pretty close to a universal desire
  • Pressure: This is NOT a good reason to use toys, but it’s why some people do.
  • Variety is the spice of sex: Many women who enjoy other forms of sexual contact–and are orgasmic in other ways–still enjoy the special sensations vibrators provide. It’s like ice cream flavors. Why limit yourself to a few when there are more to try?
  • Difficulty with arousal and orgasm: Most men become sexually aroused fairly easily, and according to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association, about one-third of men ejaculate before they would like to. So men often have trouble understanding that many women find it difficult to become sexually aroused and achieve orgasm. Men need to understand that it’s NORMAL for women to experience sex in this way. Many women feel bad that they take “too long” to get turned on enough to achieve orgasm. They fear that the man will get bored or tired or disgusted. For these women, vibrators eliminate guilt about the time it takes them to feel turned on and come.
  • Can’t come without it: For some women, no amount of direct clitoral stimulation by hand or tongue can trigger orgasm. The only thing that does it is the intense stimulation a vibrator provides. Women in this situation typically feel inadequate, like something is wrong with them. Some women in this situation have histories of sexual abuse or emotional problems that might account for their inability to come without a vibrator. But for many others, there is no discernible cause. That’s just the way they are. They might be wonderful women in every other way. They just need a vibrator to come. That’s fine. It’s normal. The situation is similar to those who need glasses. Usually it’s not clear why their eyesight weakens. It just does. Fortunately, we have glasses for them–and vibrators for women who need them.

»»Whether your partner is well meaning or not, if you’re being pressured to try using a vibrator it won’t work, and it shows a lack of respect of your boundaries. Vibrators are ultimately about feeling pleasure, and you can’t force someone to experience pleasure, because experiencing pleasure is in some ways an expression of free will. Everyone has the right to say no to using a vibrator, just as we all have the right to say no to any kind of sex play at any time.


Article: MissBonnie and MissBitch for The Beginner’s Guide to Vibrators © CollarNcuffs.com

Many, many thank yous to Cle-Andria for her help with images, allowing us to destroy her shop shelves in the name of kink, and her wealth of information.

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