Help my Husband (Partner) wants me to be his Mistress (Domme)!
Does this sound a little like your situation?
“Your partner has approached you with a request. You know it is important you see it means a great deal to him, but you have no idea what it could be. He is flushed, excited, nervous, and a little tentative to talk to you. Clearly this is very important to him and most likely then, to you! Then he blurts it out. “I want you to be my Mistress”.
He wants to serve you as a “slave” forever. The words alone, “Mistress” and “slave”, dominance and submission, maybe ran chills up and down your spine. They conjure up images of dungeons, chains, racks, and whips of weak, pathetic men getting whipped and tortured by a cold-hearted, leather-clad bitch with whips and thigh high boots.
Perhaps you have discussed this sort of thing before, perhaps you have even taken on roles during sex play, or it could even hit you from the blue. Your reaction can range from, I’m repulsed, isn’t this a little weird, your interest maybe piqued for some kinky fun but the hell do you do this? To you’ve always wanted a slave! Chances are, your reaction is somewhere towards the more conservative extreme. In fact, if you’ve always been waiting for a man to be your 24 / 7 slave, this program probably isn’t for you [although it still may shed a little alternative light on your approach]. This program is targeted to the new Domme just starting out on her journey; the woman who would had never considered her partner to be her submissive.
The quest for a fulfilling Femdom relationship is a journey of many stages. At each level, the next steps seem impossible and unattainable. All you have to do is, with no training or preparation; step into role culture has taught you is wrong. You have to deal with his male fantasy. Even though he is the one who wants you to do this, you need to lead him to a place neither of your know exists. When you do that, you will then have to maintain it.
We can understand just how you are feeling, overwhelmed at not knowing where to start out! But you can do it, if you wish to pursue this further, and you can enjoy the process. It is possible to travel together to places of which you may never have dreamed existed when you know the steps. We can help you with the steps in your journey towards a Femdom relationship. Such as planning your first scene and more. What we have tried to present here in this program is a combination of the basic psychological aspects and the basic physical skills and knowledge needed for a Femdom love style in a user-friendly format. We hope that as you finish this program one of the things you have come away with is a stronger sense of the personal power and eroticism you carry inside of you, That power is just waiting to be tapped into and let out.
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Program Directors:
non profiled: MissBitch, SubSimon, Oz(subhub)
Target audiences
- Those New To Femdom Domination or those introduced by a partner.
Requirements
- Designed for Female Dominants. Those found to be other wise will be removed.
Curriculum
- 39 Sections
- 39 Lessons
- 8 Weeks
- Lesson One: prefaceThe purpose of this course is to examine the Female Domination lifestyle. What is Female Domination? Why do men desire Female Domination? How do couples practice Female Domination in today’s society? We will discover that Female Domination is a large tent with many forms, expressions and lifestyles contained therein. Lifestyle Terms and Definitions, what is Femdom. What does submission mean. Understanding what it can do for your relationship, Understanding submissives.1
- Lesson Two: Dealing with his kinksWhere do you fit into his submission? Who are you to think you could be his goddess and rule the household? Reluctant Goddess Syndrome” when a woman has trouble accepting the fact that her man feels this way about her1
- Lesson Three: Understanding your submissive partnerWhy is my partner submissive? So why the heck is your partner submissive? So, who is a submissive? What is a submissive? What do you see as a workable solution to suit both your needs? Learn about ALL the different types of subs. There isn’t just one type of sub out there and how each is defined will determine the type of play you can take part in! You can determine in minutes which type of sub they are ! This will make for less miscommunication, and hurt feelings between the Domme and sub1
- Lesson Four: Where are the boundaries?where are the boundaries? Rights And Responsibilities. Learn about safe words and safety calls. This can be the most important and safest part of play, everybody should know about this it could possibly save a life! This part of the program is about the kinds of responsibility you are agreeing to take on when you decide to dominate your partner-and about the kinds of rewards you have a right to expect in return1
- Lesson Five: Contracts and negotiationsDiscover the importance of contracts and negations! Why they are needed and even get an example contract that can be used between you and your partner to create a safer play environment!1
- Lesson Six: Know your RoleKnow your Role Budding femdom unsure of next steps. Know your Role . where do you fit in , Once you understand yourself and your role that is when the true journey begins. Watch as your experiences become far more intense and powerful then you ever imagined. finding your top persona, finding your top persona, do you always have to have a roll ? what's in a name? Voice your authority: Domme’s have your sub begging at your feet from just the sound of your voice.1
- Lesson Seven: Setting the sceneSetting the scene Satisfying scenes don’t just happen, any more than the plays of Shakespeare just happened. Great fantasies, like great drama, must be planned, considered, and choreographed before the performance. Lets first delve into setting the stage for your first scene1
- Lesson Eight: Symbolism and structuresymbolism and structure who’s fantasy is it? what does it mean to you and your relationship. Discover how to not just have physical control of your slave, but complete emotional control so you have them worshiping the ground you walk on! Its easy to physically control a slave, but its a true art form to control them mentally and emotionally. Its this form of control that will make them WANT to fall to their knees in pleasure.1
- Lesson Nine: Mental and rope Bondage introduction.Mental and rope Bondage introduction, safety Bondage is probably the most risky area of BDSM, but also the most popular, especially with newcomers. Accidents do happen. Many of the most experienced practitioners have had incidents. Shibari, in its original form, was designed not only to restrain, but to torture and kill. Do not underestimate the effects of even relatively simple bondage. Have fun but go slowly and don’t take chances.1
- Lesson Ten: Rope bondage and scene ideas.Rope bondage and scene ideas. This physical act of your lover relinquishing his personal power to you is at the very core of the D/s forbidden fruit, and more simply, one huge turn-on for many. Chances are if you have one kink in your straight rope, this is it. Restraint is the basis of good manners, and nowhere else but in a BDSM relationship does this statement have such literal simplicity. While there are specialty shops and skilled craftsmen galore selling all manner of manacles, a working knowledge of rope and knots is a basic bedroom skill one needs not only to develop, but—pardon the expression—master. The look in his eye when you whip out a perfect bowline without looking, fumbling, or breaking a nail will show that you have cemented his attention faster than Krazy Glue, and you both will definitely get all wrapped up in lovemaking—with strings attached.1
- Lesson Eleven: Rope bondage and scene ideas continuedRope bondage and scene ideas continued…resources include video instruction and downloads.styles of bondage with easy to follow instructions and play time scene ideas1
- Lesson Twelve: Other ties that bindOther ties that bind Now that you have had a chance to learn the ropes, it is time to think beyond just tying up your partner and enter a whole new world of bondage convenience. For although a knowledge of rope work is an excellent basic skill to have, it is not necessary to use it exclusively. Think of it as learning Latin, a discipline that lays a foundation for further study. There are many other contraptions of confinement, some designed for the job and some adapted from other purposes. An introduction to these can save time on the tying, allowing more time for other, less restrictive endeavors.1
- Lesson Thirteen: The Anatomy LessonThe Anatomy Lesson The MOST critical things you must NOT do to ensure safety of you and your partner! To this day many medical professionals still view BDSM training as abuse, even though its between consenting adults. Learn what not to do, so you don’t have to go charging to the hospital and explaining what happened !1
- Lesson Fourteen: The Elements of a Good BeatingThe Elements of a Good Beating Learn all the tips and tricks to spanking and whipping etc! Know the difference between toys, how and when to use them. Sometimes your hand can be the best weapon find out when. Practical scene hints, tips and ideas. As you have guessed by now; there is a lot more to a beating than just waling away at his bottom1
- Lesson Fifteen: How do you train him to do it your way?How do you train him to do it your way? Discover how to not just have physical control of your slave, but complete emotional control so you have them worshiping the ground you walk on! Its easy to physically control a slave, but it's a true art form to control them mentally and emotionally. Its this form of control that will make them WANT to fall to their knees in pleasure. about discipline exercises and humiliation techniques! When performed correctly nothing can be a bigger turn on for you or your submissive Learn how, when and why punishment is needed! Knowing these skills can can a disobedient slave who tries to test your boundaries, and annoying to a slave who understands, honors and respects their place at your feet.1
- Lesson Sixteen: Training positionsTraining positions So now you know what he is good at, he wants this and he is ready, willing, and eager to obey your every command. How do you go about training him. ~included 10 basic positions you can use to train your willing submissive, what you do, what he does, and their uses. Building structure and furthering your personal experiences.1
- Lesson Seventeen: Your first sceneYour First Scene~ ideas, hints, tips and guidance. What do you do first? Secrets to setting up a good scene! Something goes wrong it could destroy the scene, learn how to prepare properly, so the mood is never ruined. Problems and Solutions to boundaries and blaming~What do you do when you get stuck?1
- Lesson Eighteen: Technique out of the way.technique out of the way. staying open to new ideas. Paying attention~intuition and where to find it for the future.1
- Lesson Nineteen: Emotional glitchesEmotional glitches dealing with your new found power, Post-Dominance Anxiety. Soaring higher~faster and longer. Building for the future, problems and solutions that may occur. What is subspace, sub drop and aftercare? how do you deal with it when it goes wrong.1
- Lesson Twenty: Time to say goodbye!Time to say goodbye! Making sure you have all the tool at your disposal for your scenes1
- Help: Depersonalization / sensory deprivationHelp: Depersonalization / sensory deprivation Depersonalization and sensory deprivation implies an entire range of BDSM Femdom activities often referred to humiliation. Usually depersonalization means that the Domme orders submissive to perform a role which is considerably different from the submissives role in usual life. As a rule depersonalization is fulfilled as turning a person into an object for example into a foot stool or an ash-tray. A person can as well be turned into an animal, let us say into a dog or a pony.1
- Help: Cock RingsHelp: Cock Rings Many folks equate sex toys with vibrators and vibrators with women. But men enjoy all kinds of sex toys (including vibrators) and one of the staples of their toy box is the cock ring in and out of Femdom play scenes. A great toy for solo or partner play, the cock ring (also known as a penis ring) is a strip of material or a continuous ‘O’ ring designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection1
- Help: LubeHelp: Lube But not every lube is ideal for every person or every situation. Each lube has a main ingredient, and each has pros and cons. Some lubes are better for anal penetration and some are better for jerking her or him off. Some have chemicals that may be hard on sensitive skin, others are more natural. So what is what? We are glad you ask!1
- Help: CanesHelp: Canes Caning is the SM technique of consensually striking someone (most commonly on the buttocks) with a cane for mutual erotic pleasure. Canes are often used in Femdom play. Care should be taken to observe all appropriate safety precautions. Canes have a deserved reputation as The Victorian Terror Weapon. To most submissives, they mean severe punishment; to sensation-seeking S/M bottoms, overload.1
- Help: Multi-Orgasmic MalesHelp: Multi-Orgasmic Males Any man can become “multi-orgasmic”. It only requires a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques. Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking and pleasing his Mistress or partner. Once a man becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner/Mistress.1
- Help: PunishmentHelp: Punishment Punishment is an inevitable element of relationships between a Mistress and a sub. To speak shortly, punishment is designed for behaviour correction. But all involved in BDSM/Femdom know that punishment is a gift and the Domme’s benefaction as it helps to get free from feeling of guilt and it is a sign of the Top’s care for her sub1
- Help: SubspaceHelp: Subspace This word we use to describe the psychological (mental) and physical state the submissive can – but does not (always) have to – reach as a result of BDSM interaction. On the Internet especially you will see a lot of stories and articles about “subspace”. Most of these unfortunately got it dead wrong. This leads to a lot of confusion. For example “subspace” and orgasm are often mixed up.1
- Help: Tease, Humiliate, Punish, TormentHelp: Tease, Humiliate, Punish, Torment: starting out ideas This is a list of suggested ideas and activities for Dominant Women to use on their submissive men. I’ve written this list because I enjoyed compiling it and I hope people will continue to send comments and additions It could be used as a starting point for couples who would like some new ideas or don’t know where to start. This list is not meant as a “how too list” but just meant to spark ideas for the newly dominant woman, as I suggest she finds her own style.1
- Help: Anal playHelp: Anal play Taboos about one’s anus are ingrained in us from earliest childhood. The most pervasive negative attitudes are tied to the “uncleanliness” of the area and, for men, anal pleasure is closely associated with homosexual behavior. Because of this many adult men, are alienated from their anuses and the erotic pleasures to be had there. Hidden between the folds of the buttocks, what the Marquis de Sade lovingly described as the “rosebud” opening is, for most people, anything but (excuse the pun).1
- Help: Wax & Liquid LatexHelp: Wax ~ Liquid Latex Many people have played with a bit of candle wax at one time or another in their lives. Maybe by putting a finger in the pool of wax at the top of a candle. Maybe by catching a drip of wax on their skin by accident. Maybe even by dripping a bit of wax on themselves on purpose. Well, it’s the intentional wax play we’re going to talk about here. So if you’re interested in playing with wax on a partner, or even if you just want to play with some on yourself, we have a few bits of advice we’d like to pass along to get you started on the right path. If it turns you on–or might turn you on–to drip molten wax from a burning candle onto the pink and delicate bits of your partner1
- Help: Protocols and ritualsHelp: Protocols and rituals Life comes with bills, the flu, dishes, and laundry, getting the car serviced, taking the trash out, going to work and so much more. Plus then add in kids if you have them and then you have less time. And everything keeps going no matter if you are in a D/s relationship. It means there is no 24/7 bondage, S&M and sex. It means living life the best we can do and trying to add in things to keep that focus of the power exchange. It is keeping it real within reality, but how do we keep it moving?1
- Help: Smoking FetishHelp: Smoking Fetish Smoking fetishism (capnolagnia) is a sexual fetish consisting of the fetishisation of the smoking of tobacco and marijuana. Among heterosexual men, the fetish is often associated with oral fixations and fellatio ~tips hints ideas for play1
- Help: Anal BeadsHelp: Anal Beads Beads for his butt? It may sound kind of crazy, but these special beads are designed to take advantage of the pleasant sensations that can occur as your sphincter muscles open and close around a series of small round objects. When withdrawn at the peak of orgasm, your partner may experience an erotic thrill unlike any other. If you’re already discovered the joys of anal play with your Femdom activities you owe it to yourself to give this toy a try, either for your partner to enjoy with self play or or incorporated in your Femdom play.1
- Help: Strapon playHelp: Strapon play What the hell is a harness? What type is the best for Femdom and pegging? So your partner has said he wants you to use a harness on him? Why does he want this? But I don’t know what to do ? Where to start ? How do I use it?1
- Help: MummificationHelp: Mummification Basic mummification is fun, easy and inexpensive, and can be a lot of fun as Femdom activity. We have included a complete guide. It places the submissive/slave in a situation of powerlessness and sensory deprivation which allows him to float off, forget his problems, and offer his complete trust to the Domme. The Dominate gets enjoyment and satisfaction from his sense of total control, from the pleasure she is giving the bottom, and from activity she may initiate after the mummification is complete.1
- Help: SpankingHelp: Spanking One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, we prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Spanking info covering position & posture, safety plus more1
- Help: CBTHelp: CBT It seems counterintuitive. Why would a man want scary and intense things done to such a delicate part of his body? How could this possibly be pleasurable? How could he ask a lover or a playmate to do these seemingly unloving acts to him? If he’s asked you, how on earth can you do it to a person you care for?1
- Help: TramplingHelp: Trampling Before we enter in the area of trampling we would like to additionally add this area of Femdom isn’t without risks. Our advise given here is a simple a reflection of what we use in our practices. This not meant imply safety. Using our methods you do so at your own risk!1
- Help: Foot fetishHelp: Foot fetish Before we enter in the area of trampling we would like to additionally add this area of Femdom isn’t without risks. Our advise given here is a simple a reflection of what we use in our practices. This not meant imply safety. Using our methods you do so at your own risk!1
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