Crafting Rope Collars for Femdom Play: A Special Token of Bondage
Introduction to Rope Collars
In the realms of femdom play, a rope collar can be a symbol of connection between a dominatrix and their submissive. Handmade rope collars are not only cost-effective but also hold sentimental value when crafted with care. This post aims to guide you through the process of creating rope collars, whether one wishes to make them as a gift for their submissive or have their submissive partake in the creation.
Materials and Preparation
The first step in making a rope collar involves gathering the right materials. Choose a sturdy, soft rope that feels comfortable against the skin. Common choices include cotton, hemp, or nylon ropes. As for tools, you’ll need scissors, a lighter for sealing the ends, and optional decorative elements like charms or beads for personalization.
Step-by-Step Guidein not using the video instructions
1. **Measure and Cut the Rope:** Begin by measuring the rope around the submissive’s neck, leaving extra length for knotting. Cut the rope and seal the ends using a lighter to prevent fraying. 2. **Choose Your Knotting Technique:** There are several knotting techniques suitable for making collars. The simplest is the adjustable slipknot; more intricate designs like shibari-inspired knots can offer aesthetic appeal. 3. **Personalize the Collar:** Customize the rope collar by adding personal touches such as beads, charms, or tags. These elements can make the collar unique and special. 4. **Adjust and Finish:** Ensure the collar fits comfortably, adjusting the knots as necessary. Double-check that the rope feels snug but not too tight, and that there are no rough edges.
Emotional Connection Through Creation
Whether a dominatrix crafts the rope collar for their submissive or involves the submissive in the process, this activity can deepen the emotional bond. The act of making something personalized adds significance and meaning to the dynamic, making each interaction with the collar a reminder of the trust and connection shared.
Conclusion
Creating a rope collar for femdom play can be a rewarding experience, enhancing the personal connection in your relationship. Use this guide to craft a meaningful token that will symbolize your unique bond.
Pervertible (frequently misspelt “pervertable”) is a term originally coined by David Stein to describe ordinary non-sexual objects, especially everyday household objects, that can be used sexually, particularly in Femdom or BDSM play such as spanking. Some objects become so commonly ‘perverted’ that manufacturers produce and market models designed for this ‘luxury’ market. As their products are often modified (safer, sexier, easier to handle, more painful, etc.) the objects cease to be true pervertibles.
Rationale in BDSM
As humiliation is often part of BDSM, the choice of the object may be intentionally humiliating in itself, as the victim is thus associated with a very young child (e.g. diapers), with a lowlife, or with a non-person, such as an animal (e.g. a fly swatter) or even filth (e.g. a toilet brush).
The same subjective effect can also be obtained by ‘perverting’ the submissive’s body as an object, e.g. as furniture to sit or rest the dominant’s feet or rear on, storing objects in his/her underwear or orifices (mainly oral and anal) or even parking a bike between his/her buttocks. Such methods are not uncommon in hazing either.
Common Pervertibles
Spanking implements:
Not counting instruments normally designed for utilitarian hits, such as fly whisks, some of which originally were used for discipline (e.g. swagger stick) nor objects called club, stick, rod, whip etcetera; these include: bamboo skewers belts books newspaper, magazine etc. (rolled up) brooms (as stick or also as a birch if made of branches) brushes, especially bath brush, hairbrush and curry comb; both sides may be used if the hairs or spikes are firm to hard carpet beater or rug duster clothes pegs flails pointing stick, ruler & yardstick table tennis paddles, cricket bat and various sports rackets hockey sticks oars pokers ropes, cords and cables (for whipping; also for tying) shaving strap shoes, boots, golf shoes and other cleats and footware (the plimsoll/thong/flip flops is a classic) spoon, spatula, whisk, ladle and other cooking utensils such as the cutting board Sweat Scrapers towels (especially wet, to increase the weight) Plant materials such as nettles or certain vines Almost any object can be used, baring those too frail or cumbersome. Often the choice is guided by convenience (e.g. availability) or fitting into role play, such as objects associated with various professions or fetishism.
Other teasing and pain infliction:
MummificationWax Playcandles ( wax play) plastic wrap (mummification) ice cubes knives bandannas as blindfolds or ( gags use) snakebite kits (provide suction) mentholated rubs feathers or feather dusters (for tickling; the second also as stick) gloves and oven mitts lighters, matches, etc. Pegs, clothes pins and clamps (nipples, loose flesh) medical equipment nails, pins and needles banjo picks Ball lock rasps various tools edibles, such as whipped cream, peppers, fruits, vegetables, Ginger etc. cooking oils and shortenings (for massaging) vibrating devices, even as remote as a washing machine especially large, solid objects are also used passively: to tie the victim onto, e.g. a vaulting horse or vault buck, a sawhorse etc. as an improvised punishment horse, a barrel etc. to be bent over for the victim to lie upon, as chair, table, bed, etc. rubber bands and other constructive items
A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. If you’re looking for a unique and playful way to express your kinky side, why not try making your own kinky key ring? This easy craft idea is a fun project that allows you to showcase your interests and let others know a little bit about your personality.
I can’t afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Discover the Sensual World of Pervertibles. Have you ever heard of pervertibles? No, it’s not what you might be thinking! Pervertibles are everyday items that can be repurposed for sensual or erotic play. They offer a creative and budget-friendly way to spice things up in the bedroom.
Pervertibles can be found in your kitchen, bathroom, or even in your toolbox. These ordinary objects can be transformed into tools of pleasure with a little imagination. For example, a feather duster can become a tantalizing tickler, and a silk scarf can be used for light bondage play. The possibilities are endless!
Are you looking for a craft project that is not only personal but also adds a touch of excitement to your intimate experiences? Look no further! In this Article, we will explore some DIY craft ideas for creating your own Femdom play items
Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online, DIY your own or make something a little more personal? what is better than a Femdom play item you constructed.
Building plans for a shrews fiddle. When it comes to BDSM play, there are countless tools and devices available to enhance the experience. One such tool that has gained popularity among enthusiasts is the Shrew’s Fiddle. This unique device adds an element of restraint and control, making it a favorite among those who enjoy power exchange dynamics.
If you’re looking to add some excitement to your BDSM play, building a versatile Femdom saw can be a great option. This piece of furniture can serve as both a spanking bench and a bondage horse, providing endless possibilities for pleasure and exploration.
Once your Femdom saw is complete, it’s time to enjoy the pleasures it offers. Experiment with different positions, restraints, and spanking techniques to find what works best for you and your partner. Remember to prioritize safety, communication, and consent throughout your play.
Building your own Femdom saw can be a rewarding and exciting project. It allows you to customize the furniture to your specific desires and preferences. So, get creative, have fun, and explore the thrilling world of BDSM with your new creation!
If you’re interested in BDSM play and want to add a personal touch to your collection of toys, making your own canes can be a rewarding and creative project. Here are some step-by-step instructions to help you get started. Building instructions to making canes for BDSM play.
How to make a rubber cat of nine tails. By following these instructions, you can create your own personalized rubber cat for BDSM play. Remember to prioritize safety and communication throughout the process. Have fun exploring and experimenting with your new toy!
(Video Tutorial) How to Make a Military Bugle Cord TKB. This ones great for those with uniform fetish and a fantastic adornment to dress up clothing for events and such. I’ve even used it for dungeon decoration for hanging equipment off. the only limit is your imagination.
Are you looking to add some excitement to your Femdom play? Why not try making your own rope floggers? Not only are they a great way to explore your creativity, but they can also provide a unique sensation for both you and your partner. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you get started: (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Rope Flogger
Spider webs kind of resemble a cargo net. They are great for restrictive bondage as they provide many attachment points. They are very easy to retro fit to doors and can be removed when not in use :(Video Tutorial) How to Build a Rope Web by TKB
More from the wonderful Two Knotty Boys. Perfect addition to their other videos for making a complete rope play set (Video Tutorial) collar with Rope by Two Knotty Boys
(Video Tutorial) Bondage Toys – Making a rope Bit Gag. I loved finding this instructional video on how to create a rope bit gag. I loved that I could create a rope set with the flogger, leashes and collar and blindfold etc. for play (Video Tutorial) The Bit Gag by TKB
Home made ‘sex toys’ for Femdom online activities from every day items. Great for travel when you cant bring items or for those playing online that want a little creativity.
*please note 2024: Many, many more are located in Free download section on the community forum. Why not join us all today?
The internet is a treasure trove of resources for learning about sex and BDSM / Femdom in all its fascinating, fetishy, and funny permutations. New blogs and podcasts pop up almost daily, bringing displays of sexual novelty that boggle even the most adventuresome minds. Recently, I stumbled upon a couple of sites that were unusual even for a veteran web-crawler like me. There, men were taught how to make masturbation toys from supplies stocked in their own pantries or junk cupboards.
The “home kitchen” style of instruction, juxtaposed against the erotic purposes for which household items were used, struck me as both bizarre and charming. I couldn’t help wishing that all sex education could be carried out in such an unabashedly friendly way, no matter how weird it seemed at first glance. Can you imagine a world where learning to make a planter out of a coconut shell and crafting a jack-off sleeve from a toilet tissue tube are equally OK? We sure don’t see that on TV! Of course, it would probably help to have a sexy co-ed cutie for your teacher, like the host of one of those V-casts. I mean, who wouldn’t conclude from watching her putter about in the kitchen, wearing only an apron and a dazzling thousand-watt light bulb smile, that masturbation is super-healthy and a bucket of fun?
Light bulb moment! … The mind boggles at uses some of these easily home made ‘sex toys’ can have of Femdom online activities. Online, cam play, and long distance relationships can have limitations. Some of these limitation can be escalated by the inability to purchase new toys due to cost, or restrictions to sex toy purchases due to country laws (e.g India). Some of these ideas would be great to have your submissive gather. Not to mention keep him wondering for hours as what you intend to do with them. New online video formats make lessons in erotic arts and crafts especially easy to follow. But for those of you who are impatient to learn what kind of homespun aids you can put together on the cheap (and on the fly) here are a couple of ideas from around the internet, and some of my own inventions.
Now grab your lube and go to it! That’s an order from MissBonnie
A Cup of Plenty
You’ll need:
1 hard plastic cup,taller than your erect penis is long
2 large sponges
Lube
How To:
Put sponges in hot water and wring them out. Place the sponges inside the plastic cup and squirt lube between them. Insert your penis between the sponges – and you’re good to go!
The Couch Potato
You’ll need:
1 large plastic freezer bag
Scissors
Lube
How To:
Cut off the top of the plastic bag so that the plastic ridge or zip-lock doesn’t get in the way. Squeeze lube into the bag and squish the lube around to coat all the sides of the bag. Place the plastic bag between the top couch cushion and the solid bottom of the couch (with the open end facing you). Slide your penis into the bag. Lower the couch cushion back down and press down with your hand to add desired amount of pressure to the cushion. Slide back and forth in the bag. You can vary this technique by having a few books ready to place on the cushion for just the right amount of hands free pressure.
Mellon madness
You’ll need:
One melon (honey Dew or Rock melon)
One mellon scoop
A sharp knife
A Microwave oven
Lube
Step 1:
Get a melon and scoop out a hole Buy yourself a rock melon or honeydew melon. Cut a round hole in one end a bit smaller than your dick. Scoop out a little of the inside but not too much, remember, you’re making sex toys not digging ditches. Step 2: Heat the melon in a microwave (be careful!) and squirt in some baby oil or KY jelly.
How To:
A little bonus to add to the honeydew/cantaloupe procedure: On the opposite side of the melon from where your penis enters it, make a small hole with a skewer or small knife, no bigger than a pencil eraser, but reaching all the way in to the “vagina.” Wrap your hand around the melon after you insert your erection and put your finger over the hole on the outstroke. Remove your finger on the in-stroke, replace it over the hole on the outstroke. Feels like a mouth going down on your cock, then sucking on it as it draws back. A very nice substitute for a blow job!
Pocket pussy
You’ll need:
four or five balloons
Hot to warm water
A pillow
String or a belt
Small kitchen trash bag
Lube
Step 1:
Fill the balloons with warm, not hot, water. Tie the ends so water will not squeeze out. This also works with hot water bottles.
Step 2:
Take a pillow; roll it up like a tube and tie a string around it or even use your belt. Push the warm water balloons into the opening of the pillow tube. Your fleshy warm vagina is almost ready. Take a small plastic kitchen trash can bag. Push it in between the balloons in the pillow. Put some lubricant of your choice inside the plastic bag that is being tightly squeezed by the balloons.
How To:
Get your dick ready. Put the pillow on bed. Put your dick inside this plastic vagina. You will feel the warmth, slipperiness and tightness you only dreamed of.
Condom Roll
You’ll Need:
One toilet paper roll tube
One condom
Lube
Step 1:
Take one toilet paper (or paper towel) tube, one condom, and some lube. Put the condom inside the roll and stretch the opening of the condom across the opening of the tube. Fold the end of the condom over the end of the tube and hold with one hand. How To: Lube well and go at it like hell.
BONUS: Pull on the tip of the condom while you jack and it feels like a blowjob.
Sock Shocker
You’ll need:
One sock
One latex glove or washing up glove
Lube
Step 1:
Take a sock and roll it up like a donut.
Step 2:
Put a latex surgical glove in the rolled up sock.Wrap the end of the glove over the top of the sock to hold it in place. Lube up the inside.
How To:
Strap-on and go at it. You can also put it between two pillows or between your mattress and your box spring, and pump away.
Shampoo Shutter
You’ll Need:
One Shampoo Bottle
Two socks
sharp Scissors
Lube
Step 1:
Cut both ends off a shampoo bottle that is slightly larger than your cock. Put two socks into the bottle. The stocks should be one inside the other and should be thick enough to fill up the bottle. Cut the toes off the socks.
Step 2:
Wrap the open ends of the socks around the outside of the bottle and tape them. (Duct tape works best). Now do the same thing with a long latex glove. Keep the fingers of the gloves intact except for one that you can use for releasing pressure and providing suction, cut a hole in that one. Insert a butt plug you-know-where for extra thrills.
How To:
Use your favorite lube and go at it. If the bottle is too big, use more socks to take up room and provide extra padding.
Recognition Symbols for Perverts A little trick to share your Femdom interests
There have frequently been calls on ASB for a covert recognition symbol for perverts. The leather pride flag is an overt one, but it can require some delicate explaining if one is not “out” about kinky interests. Here’s one that is pretty covert, but noticeable. Originally posted to ASB 7 Jan 1997; somewhat revised here. On ASB, Iain wrote:
Some of my friends in America carry keyrings with a bundle of leather thongs tied through them, making a recognisable mini- flogger that is quite deniable, as it is also a very practical keyring.
To make one of these:
You will need:
four 18“ (46 cm) pieces of leather lacing, about 1/8” (3mm) square.
one other piece of lacing about 12-14“ long.
Regular boot leather laces are okay; mine came from Tandy leather.
a key ring.
Mine is a 1-1/2” (3.7 cm) dia. split key ring. You could construct this on a smaller ring, to attach to another key ring, but I wouldn’t used a ring smaller than about 3/4“ (2 cm) diameter.
Construction:
Line up the four 18” laces parallel to each other, and insert one end of the bunch through the ring. Put the ring at the laces’ centerpoint, and bend the laces over so that they hang down in equal lengths from the ring. These will be the 8 tails of the mini-flogger.
{For ex-Boy Scouts, the next step is equivalent to the knot used in whipping the end of a rope, where the bunch of tails are the “rope”}
Fold the 5th lace back on itself, 2-1/2“ from one end. I’ll call the longer end (12” or so) end “A” in the following description, and the shorter end (2-1/2“) end “B”. Lay the bent end of the 5th lace in the groove between the 4 sets of tails, parallel to the tail laces at the ring, with the bent end about 2” away from the ring, pointing toward the ends of the 8 tails, and ends A and B pointed toward the ring. End B lies over the ring but is not passed through it. End A is slipped through the ring, then, from the other side of the ring, pulled down parallel to the 8 tails. Now pass it between the 2 sets of 4 tails ring at the ring, so that it is parallel to the ring and emerges from the 8 tails at right angles to them.
Start wrapping end A around the tails (and its own bent end) tightly. (This will end up being the “handle” of the mini- flogger). Be sure to lay it down untwisted, to make a good-looking surface to the wrapping. After 6 or 7 wrappings, slip end A through the original bent end of this lace, that should be sticking out from under the wrapping. With a pair of pliers, pull end B (up by the ring), so that end A is pulled back underneath the wrappings, about halfway. Cut both end A and B short, where they emerge from the wrappings. That’s it.
If you carry your keys in a pants pocket, the tails hang out of the pocket so that you can pull on them to get the keys. Eden says that if you carry a purse, you won’t lose these keys… or if they head to the bottom of your purse, you can find ’em in the dark by feel.
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I’m always working on making toys the longer your in the lifestyle the more toy ideas you see. .I see them every where and with a little imagine you can turn anything into some thing perverted and fun But that said, there are all kinds of things we can do to have fun and save money (or embarrassment off shopping). The idea is look to at Adult toys that are on the market and gleam your ideas from them ..touch them, feel if at all possible ..think about what you would change or alter ..how can best make it suit your needs…search on the net for pictures and ideas.
Seems like every Domme wants a riding crop. It seems like you have to have one. Don’t go to a fetish/adult store to buy one. They’ll charge you $20-35 or more. Go to a tack shop, where you get riding supplies. What a novel concept, get a riding crop from a riding store … much cheaper. At my last visit they had better ones than I saw at the fetish/adult shop. Plus as an added bonus the choice and range is more varied, and you even get colored variety.
A Bondage safety idea
Do you know about panic snaps? (great things I Love them) They’re used for horses .. $2 or $3 at farm supply shop. They provide two attachment loops But if the horse – or the bound slave – panics, you pull on the barrel in the center, and one of those rings springs open and your captive is free. Good in case of an emergency. If someone passes out or has a fit, epileptic or otherwise LOL, you don’t want to spend time releasing them. And with the panic snaps you can support their weight while releasing them. In a group situation you can always get someone to hold the person while you release ordinary snaps, but it’s harder and sometimes impossible when you’re alone.
There are other things you can ‘pervert’. Brushes of all sorts, I have a little scrub brush .. A hoof brush, It is stiff, with slightly scratchy bristles. .. $1.49 (From the farm supply shop.) farm supplies… a drovers whip is about $3/7… its kind of a cross between a crop and a cane… Saddle girth straps and stirrup’s leathers also have possibilities ..I brought an old girth leather ..now it’s a twase strap with a lovely snap and a great little stinger. One more thing from the farm supply shop. That rubbery gauze they have in various colors for wrapping around horse’s hoofs. Its called vet wrap. sticks to itself. I use it to wrap around things, create a handle. Great stuff. (also great for binding)
decorate your bound sub in plastic wrap (Mmm Gladwrap or saran wrap as others call it) If you have access to pallet this is wider and works so well . I also like polo wraps from the farm store. A set of 4, matching colors, soft, stretchy but not too stretchy.. Good for blindfolding, impromptu binding to a chair. very safe, very effective. Hehe gave me ideas for Easter/Christmas look out Oz I’m bored again. Hmm vet wrap is also wonderful for CBT and so cheap at farm supplies.
Plastic curry brush, from the pet supply shop, cost a couple of dollars, comes in designer colors, mine is purple. It has a little clip you slide between your fingers to hold it, has all these plastic fingers sticking out the other end, for doing things with your dog’s coat. Never mind perversion, I’ve started using on my head, scalp massage. It feels wonderful. There is also another variety, rectangular in shape, with little indentations for your fingers on the side, big rubbery fingers on one of the flat surfaces, great for massage .. again, it comes in lots of florescent colors from your pet supply store. While your there don’t forget pet bowls and animal cages, leashes. a nilabone (plastic dog chew bone) drilled at the ends. thread through leather laces makes a great gag for your playful pup Kitten collars…make the best cock ring the variety is endless from pink jewel encrusted to black leather studded.
If you want a collar, check out a good pet supply shop before you go to a fetish/Adult shop. I saw a very nice, three inch wide dog collar with huge studs on it, for about $20. Of course, you only get one d-ring to snap things to. Some even have a metal plate for engraving your subs name. give it that personal touch *wink*…choker training collars make great extension points, they have a O ring on both end that fits just about all attachment points (please note I do not recommend using around you sub/s neck) Added note: Many farm supply stores carry a variety of collars, and whips… as well as a variety of chains, ropes.. Kitchen stores have wooden spoons, cutting boards, make great paddles. My best “killer” paddle is from the surplus store .. it’s a 36“ child size canoe paddle. I paid $8 for it, I can hold it by the end and swing the whole length. I haven’t ever tried it full force … but I am told gentle works pretty well. Keep an eye out in discount shops rug beaters. spray paint them if you want colors to match.
What about those heavy rubber tie downs with the metal hooks, which you use for strapping things to a pickup truck/Ute or onto a motorcycle A friend uses two or three, folded double. Without the metal hooks, of course.
While we’re on the topic of getting things cheaper than at fetish shops nipple clamps .. the Japanese clover clamps .. much cheaper at the sewing supply shop .(Aussie version: fabric clamp (spotlight)) They have a little clamp which attaches to the table and holds the clover clamp, used for embroidery or something. Of course, they only sell half a pair, so you wind up with two table clamps, left over. You need to pick up a bit of chain, (choker chain works *wink*) , to join them. Also have similar in local electronics suppliers (yes I’m a geek too)
Pinwheel, play piercing
Wattenberg Wheel. go back to the sewing shop the Wattenberg’s are much sharper than the sewing ones. little prickling sensations. (Or so they tell me). no blood, but definitely prickling… my limits.
And if you want a cheap blindfold, try the drugstore/chemist .. Sleep masks. I have both a red satin and a purple satin sleep mask, for special occasions.
Want a ball gag? get a practice gold ball .. hard plastic, hollow, with holes in it; put a rope or thong through the holes (leather boot laces work well )You can still breath with it in place. I wound up with a package of six .. anyone want five practice golf ball’s? Oz doesn’t chew threw them anymore LOL and did I say “hello drool”
And since bdsm involves sex, (at least for some people it does), disposable plastic gloves, large, fits either hand. A package of 24 for $1 cents, at the dollar store.
Making simple toys, tool dip
But now for the creative part, where you get to show off in front of people .. making stuff. A friend took a few bungee cords, removed the outer layer and found a whole bunch of tiny rubber strands inside … makes a great tit whip or cock & ball whip. I liked the idea, so I stopped by my favorite place, the farm supply store, and bought a bungee cord. Instead of little spaghettis, I found a dozen fettuccini; wide strips, maybe half inch wide … Different bungee cords have different insides .. so you can wind up with several patterns. (not to mention colors)
At the kitchen store, I bought some wooden skewers intended for bar b queuing. Little strips of bamboo, a foot long, pointed at one end. Take a third or half the package, wrap a string around one end a few times. I got fancy, and dipped it in red tool dip. You can use it as a stick, tap the skin with it, or you can use the pointy ends, drag that across skin. What is tool dip? Tool dip is liquid rubber Plastisol it’s stuff you dip your metal tools in if you are working with electric stuff so you have plastic to break any charges You dip the ends of metal tools into this, and it forms a handle. You can use it to color code stuff (Hint different lengths of rope different end colors), or to whip the ends of ropes. I use it to make handles for floggers and toys.
One thing I did was to dip ordinary, thin kitchen string in the tool dip. I dipped the whole length of the string, six foot pieces. Then folded it into shorter pieces once it’s dry, bundled it together with a handle at one end, about a dozen strips, a foot long. It makes a nice stingy toy.
Or another idea rope and dip: take a nylon string about clothes line size; tie knots in it about 1 inch apart then coat the knots with dip, just the knots and DADA anal beads! I also dipped parachute cord, that’s a thin, loose, braided rope, scraped off the excess .. it became very stiff, like a switch or birch. I stuck six lengths together, very stingy, on a bigger scale than the tiny strings.
The stuff hardens quite hard the dipped rope has some flexibility, but not much.
the container of Plastic dip is about the – half the – size of a tennis-ball can. A pint? like a small container of paint.
If your after more flex I might also suggest liquid latex…might be more flexible…I haven’t ventured into this a lot its still a work in progress lol . Anyone like canes? Mini blind rods work pretty well. As do cane garden stakes if you get creative on the handle they can look and feel quite effective. I made one using the fiberglass rods you join together to assemble a dome tent. The fibreglass rods are too thick, not flexible enough .. too much of a whack. But I think a fishing rod would be great .. Just I would like to suggest being careful with fiberglass… it will shatter, or crack causing terrible cuts and splinters…I have tried the last segment of an old deep-sea – or surf – fishing rod. The plexi does bend a lot. a friend of mine uses blank fishing rods as canes, dipped in tool handle stuff. I dipped tiny plastic rods, about 1/16 ” , and used the dip as a bundler to make an instant handle. It all looked great, but the rods broke, shattering in use. 🙁
For those without a partner, I have a suggestion 🙂 Go to the supermarket and buy leather boot laces 🙂 The pack quite a sting and make a delightful “swish” as they go over your shoulder for self flagellation:)
I have four leather thongs, folded double, attached to a key ring. Makes a nice fetish decoration to wear at my waist, and a convenient portable toy.
I bought a spool of that kind of leather and braided 4 foot lengths for a handle about 8“, leaving the rest loose… a flogger… quite effective, cost about $10
Making a soft rope flogger, hard rubber flogger, simple short whip. A rope flogger can be nice .. softest thing around. It needs to be nylon, other plastics are nasty. Unwind the rope into strands. Unwind the strands into yarns. unwind the yarns into threads. Now there are 140000 loose threads instead of 8 or ten ropes. Makes a soft thud .. learned that from one of the local munch group.
If you have the luxury of living in a big city, where the garment district has tassel shops. get a fine nylon tassel of 100s of individual ends that swish, and a you have a stinger. (some stores also stock silk)
A rubber flogger. A bicycle inner tube, cut into lengths, about two feet long. Split the tubes. Open into not-very-flat panels, and cut into strips joined at one end. Glue the joined end onto a handle with rubber cement. Makes a healthy whack.
and a short whip, made from leather thongs, braided together. If you made a bracelet from bits of plastic when you were eight, you know the basic knot … google for “wall knots”. You can either reverse direction at each stage, or keep going in one direction, I like that, gives a spiral effect. The whip starts with eight thongs, every 6 rows I take one out of the set, forcing it into the middle core. Eventually, the thongs run out, I push them into the middle to make a spreader bar from a tension rod with the spring removed… drilled a series of holes in it and insert a bolt to make it adjustable…. bolt chains on each end for cuffs… whole thing around $20 (cuffs dog collars) or a broom handle cut down with eye bolts…shorten the same design ..join two.. you have a hogtie
My favorite idea from a web page … licorice strings … first you whip him, then you eat the evidence (yummy)
ice Dildo …. have a cardboard tube, say from a roll of toilet paper, standing up, with a condom hanging down inside … the open end of the condom wrapped around the top of the tube. Put some water into it, put in the freezer.
When you take it out of the freezer, make sure you run some water over it or do something to take the edge off, slightly, you don’t want freezing cold to damage the skin. Hint add a few more condom if you feel its too cold.
I have a very thick leather belt I got from the Salvation Army store. I remember getting the strap in the principle’s office. This feels very much like that. I think it cost me $3
feather duster (tickler)…I like those big ostrich feathers too\\ I like climbing stores you can get wide webbing, buckles, Velcro all kinds of things
And recently at a Fashion Center store in Melbourne, they had a sale of silky rope, purple colored. 10 yards for $5. Amazing… I got 20 yards.
I have a pair of tweezers I bought at an electronics / mechanics surplus store. The zigzag kind, normally closed, squeeze to open Makes an interesting nipple clamp, doesn’t squeeze very hard .. $2 they also sell them at jewelry supply shops. they’re called ‘cross-lock tweezers.’
dental picks?? Not a sex insertion toy .. don’t insert anywhere use them for skin .. sensation control .. tease a person’s skin with the pointy parts ..the list is endless and you are only limited by your imagination…its not how something looks ,its how it feels, and how you feel when you use it…look around your home ..or shed I bet your getting ideas ..have fun ..experiment ..enjoy that’s what its all about and if you get a good idea feel free to share it ..include a picture if you want we’d love to post it and give you credit
Here are a few items you can make easily and inexpensively for yourself. Maybe you want to be able to construct some toys instead of carrying things with you when you travel, or maybe you like the idea of using things you’ve made on someone. Either way, here are seven quick ideas for toys you can make yourself from easy obtainable materials. Each of the materials lists tells you what you need to make one of them, but you can make as many as you want the same way.
Bubblewrap Dildo
Materials List:
non-lubricated condom(s)
some bubblewrap, approximately 8 x10 sheets
some duct tape (only need a little)
Construction Details:
First, take the bubblewrap and roll it up (bubble side out for more sensations). Now take the condom and unroll it over the bubblewrap tube you made. Finally, use a little duct tape to seal the condom and you have an instant dildo. Or, if you want to use two condoms, you can skip sealing the first one and just slip the second one over the open end of the first condom now and then roll it down before sealing it with a little duct tape.
Play Tip:
Tell your partner to try to pop as many bubbles as they can (without using their hands of course).
Simple spreader bar
materials List:
wooden dowel rod, approximately 1 x24
three screw eyes, #6 size
Construction Details:
If you happen to have a drill you can make this easier by pre-drilling a hole in each end of the dowel rod and one hole in the middle. But if you don’t have a drill it’s easy enough to just attach the screw eyes by hand. One goes in each end of the dowel rod, and one goes in the middle of the rod.
Play Tips:
Ankle or wrist cuffs or other restraints can be attached to the eyes in the ends of the dowel rod. The middle eye and some rope or chain can be used to secure the rod to the head- or footboard of a bed, to a wall, or to the ceiling if you have an attachment point there. [Note: do not use for suspension, a metal spreader bar is suggested for any real weight-bearing play.]
Golfball Gag
Materials List:
practice golfball, plastic, with holes
piece of leather thong, approximately 24
emery board
Construction Details:
First, take the emery board and work on the rough edges where the two halves of the golf ball were joined. (Remember it’s going in someone’s mouth and you don’t want to cut their lips.) Then pass the leather lace through two holes on opposing sides of the ball. Knot the lace on each side of the ball to keep it centered on the lace.
Play Tips:
The ball goes in the mouth, the lace ties behind the head. The holes in the ball allow for breathing, drooling, and some grunting and screaming sounds to escape. Since your partner won’t as easily be able to use a safeword (if you use them), you’ll need to set up a safe signal instead.
Bootlace Whip
Materials List
handful of bootlaces, or the plastic lacing used for lanyards
roll of duct tape
Construction Details
Take the bootlaces and fold them in half. If you’re using the plastic lacing, cut them into lengths about 3 feet long and then fold those in half. Wrap duct tape around the folded section to make a handle for the whip.
Play Tips
With a variety of plastic lacing colors and some colored duct tape you can make a pretty attractive whip. But remember that this is not a gentle whip, and can be used to cause sharp though not severe pain (depending on where it’s used). You can also try wetting the laces before use to add more weight to the tails.
Frayed Rope Flogger
Materials List:
three feet of soft nylon rope
popsicle stick
piece of leather thong, approximately 24
Super Glue
Construction Details:
Take the rope and fold it in half with the popsicle stick lengthwise in the middle. Now put some Super Glue on the end of the leather thong. What you want to do is wrap the leather thong around the folded rope and popsicle stick to make a handle for the flogger. Start by wrapping over the end with the Super Glue on it, then finish by adding some glue to the other end and tucking it under the wraps. When you’re done just unravel the rope to create the flogger tails.
Play Tips:
While this isn’t a very painful flogger, it’s good for warming up someone before a heavier flogging or for bringing someone back down after one. The tails can tangle pretty easily, so tie a knot in them when not in use to keep them under control (hitting them with a little spray Static Guard will help with that too).
Clothespin Zipper
Materials List:
six to eight clothespins (or more)
silk cord, or plastic or leather lace, 24 (or more)
Construction Details:
This zipper can be made a couple of ways. The traditional way is to pass the cord or lace through the metal spring in each clothespin and knot the cord on each side of each clothespin. This gives you a reusable zipper that stays together for next time. The other way to make a zipper is to simply clamp each clothespin over the cord. While there is nothing keeping the clothespins on the cord, they will still all pull off at once.
Play Tips:
Make these with sets of different sized clothespins. You can string a lot of the little tiny ones on a cord to torment places where the big clothespins don’t work as well. Tie several strings to one control cord and pull that one to remove all the sets at once. Clips and clamps
Black Jack Cane
Materials List:
some clear vinyl tubing, 1/4 or 1/2 inside diameter, 24 long
two to four erasers from the ends of pencils
big handful of BBs (copper, steel or both)
Super Glue
roll of duct tape
Construction Details:
First put some Super Glue inside one end of the vinyl tubing. Now stuff one or two erasers inside the tube to seal that end. Trim the eraser even with the end of the tube. Turn the tube around and pour the BBs into the other end, almost filling the tube. (Twirl a piece of paper into a funnel shape to make pouring them in easier.) Put a little Super Glue inside this end of the tube too. And now stuff an eraser or two into this end, trimming it even with the tube end again. Wrap as much duct tape as you want around one end of the tube to make a handle for the cane.
Play Tips:
Depending on the diameter of the tube you’ll have either a stingier or a thuddier cane. If you use both steel and copper BBs you can add them in layers for a nice visual effect in the clear tubing. Add colored duct tape for a more custom touch. You can also fold the tube in half and duct tape the whole length of it to create a nice thuddy blackjack.
Canes have a sweet, sharp bite and are one of the most intense striking toys in BDSM Femdom. But most people would be surprised how easy and inexpensive they are to make. Here’s our process for making rattan canes. Although many people think canes are made out of bamboo, most BDSM folk use canes made from rattan. Bamboo can split into sharp splinters. Rattan is a reed that grows in China and Indonesia. It is relatively easy to find, because it is used to make furniture. Check your local Yellow Pages for furniture-making or caning supply stores. If you don’t have any nearby, you can order rattan over the Internet as well
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Traditional canes are made of rattan, a woody reed from the East Indies. It has a jointed stem that resembles bamboo, but is not hollow. Rattan is very tough and strong, and makes the most durable natural canes we know. Like bamboo, it comes in all sorts of diameters; traditional canes are about 8mm, but thicker and thinner ones are also useful. Rattan can sometimes be found at craft stores or Oriental basketwork shops. It is used to make wicker furniture, so a repairer of that might have a stock of it as well. Unfortunately, most of the cane-sized rattan that comes into this country (Australia) has been bent into coils, which warps and sometimes cracks it.
If you must deal with the coiled stuff, it should first be cut to length with a fine-toothed saw. Coping saws and hacksaws work well. A dressmaker’s tape is a handy way to measure along the coils. Obviously, you should discard cracked peices. Less obviously, your canes will be much more durable if the tip includes one of the joints of the stem. The convoluted grain in each joint resists splitting, as opposed to the very straight grain that runs for the foot or so between joints. A lot of the coiled rattan has been peeled and sanded, but the joints are still noticeable if you look and feel carefully. Cut the stem about a stem diameter to one side of the joint; this will become the tip of the cane. (The ends without joints included are fine for handles – the tips are what take the shock and strain.)
You can make the canes any length you like; People have different preferences when it comes to cane lengths. Remember that the longer the cane, the more whippy (and hard to control) I prefer 20-30 inches (50-80cm) as they are easier to aim and more convenient in close quarters. Long ones have more power, but can be awkward. The natural variations in your coil will probably give you several choices.
You can also cut the rattan to make double canes. A double cane is a length of rattan that has been bent back on itself, to make what looks something like a snowshoe frame or loop. These canes fit nicely onto a buttock, and are easier to transport. To make double canes, carefully bend the rattan back on itself, tie it in position, and soak it again. It may take multiple times of bending, tying, and soaking to get the shape you want. Don’t try to force the rattan to bend farther than it wants to, or you will end up with a kink–and not the good kind!
You can also bend just one end to make a shape similar to a walking or candy cane. We find this shape to be less practical, but some submissives strongly identify “cane” with this shape, so we always make a few of these. Rattan is sized via a number system. We find that sizes between 10 and 15 are most useful; to start with, I recommend ordering size 12, which is 3/8 inch or 9 mm in diameter. This will make a whippy cane with enough strength to stand up to fairly heavy use. Each tip needs to be rounded off; any kind of edge here will break skin far too easily. Coarse sandpaper works well, especially in a power sander of some kind. Hand sanding will also do, as will a fairly coarse metal file. Whatever you use, try for a smoothly rounded end. Now hand-sand the whole length of each cane with medium paper; try to remove the stray fibers you find sticking up from the wood. They are a nuisance during varnishing.
The cut pieces will have to be soaked and steamed to straighten them without breaking. We soak ours in the bathtub for a day or two, but any water will do. Don’t let them dry out. After soaking comes steaming and straightening. You will need some way of keeping the canes straight as they dry; we lay them in a series of grooves we routed into a plank, and then clamp another plank on top of them. You can also try shoving each one down a length of pipe; plastic water pipe won’t rust and stain the canes. (even come with screw on plastic caps)
When you have your straightening rig set up, boil a big kettle of water. Wrap the canes in a towel or two, lay them in the (drained) tub and pour some boiling water over them. Dose them every minute or so for a few minutes, and then unwrap them; the scalding will make them limp and easy to uncurl. (Dishwashing gloves help keep your fingers from scalding, too.) Quickly, before they can cool, bend them straight and put them in the jig. Put the jig in a dry place with good ventilation for five days Remove the canes and hang them up for air drying; we use clothespins/pegs on cords. Let the canes dry for a few days until they feel dry to the touch, but still whippy. The key to a useful, long-lasting cane is to preserve a bit of moisture inside. Once a cane is completely dried out, it will become brittle.
After a few days of air drying, brush them thoroughly with a coat marine varnish. Regular varnish is too stiff for canes–it tends to flake off after a while. Marine varnish is flexible and will completely seal the cane. Check boating supply stores or order it off the Web: Give each cane at least three coats; let each coat dry enough that you can sand off any lumps. Some newspapers on the floor under them will be a good ideas, since at least one of them will drip no matter how careful you are.
The handle end of each cane can be left as is, or a grip can be added for comfort or appearance. You can dip the handle ends in plastic tool dip – it will take several coats, and you can hang them from the same setup you used in the varnishing. The fumes of this stuff are truly nasty; be sure you have good ventilation. Less toxically, you can wrap the grips with cord or leather lacing, sew a scrap of leather or cloth around them, or cover them with tape. Bicycle handlebar tape makes a fine grip.
You can of course prepare other kinds of wooden rods this way – and avoid all the straightening hassle by picking ones that are straight to begin with. Bamboo is cheap and widely available, and also stiffer than rattan, which makes aiming easier. Bamboo, of course, is hollow and the tip must be made at a joint, just as described for rattan. Bamboo works fine for light to medium blows; heavy blows with it can be dangerous. Bamboo can split without warning, and the splits have edges like razors! Hardwood dowels from the hardware store can have the same problems. Avoid either of these materials for heavy canings.
Many other plants have canelike shoots. Forsythia is a very popular ornamental, and the older branches from the inside of the bush can make quite a reasonable cane. Prepare as you would rattan. They aren’t as durable, but the price is right, especially if rattan is hard to buy where you live. Apple trees develop suckers each year, especially upward from the top branches. These grow straight, to about the right length, and are pruned off in great numbers every year. They are quite tough and durable. The buds make rough little bumps along the shoot; they can be sanded off if they seem too harsh.
Some twigs, such as birch or willow, are fine for scenes but far too flexible to be considered or used as canes. Handling them is a whole different topic.
There are also synthetic canes, mostly plastics. Plastics are much denser than wood, so they hit harder and the stroke is more penetrating. They are very easy to clean, which is a good thing because the thinner ones break skin quite easily. There are shops in most large and medium cities that sell plastic supplies. There can be a confusing variety of materials there: Delrin, Lexan, and fiberglass are three kinds of rod that are tough enough to make good canes. Acrylic is not tough enough; I have broken several. If the clear look appeals to you, get Lexan. Sora, from San Francisco, makes some very nice Lexan canes, if you want to buy ready-made. If you prepare your own, you won’t need to varnish them, but be sure to remember to round and smooth the tip!
MissBitch & MissBonnie Hints and tips
we recently found a source of rattan by the devious method of trying the yellow pages. Now we where able to make 10 straight canes for the huge sum of $4.60. We think others in fairly large cities may well have equal success if they look, why fool around with dowels or garden stakes when the real thing is cheaper?
Indeed. When buying rattan, however, you can’t simply say, “Oh, I bought thirty feet, that means I can make ten canes!” Rattan has warps and knots and such in it. When we’re cutting canes, we probably discard about 50% of the raw material in order to get something that really balances well.
If you’re going to stain and varnish it – and there’s a lot of disagreement about whether canes should be coated – you can use pretty much any wood stain to stain it with. We finish ours with marine varnish, which takes a lot of work – it’s messy stuff, and it needs to dry overnight. Since we usually do about six coats of varnish, a cane isn’t exactly a quick-and-dirty toy for us. Polyurethane is much quicker because it’s fast-drying, but all polyurethane finishes have something of a tendency to flake, and this is really exacerbated when you’re dealing with a flexible cane. Be sure to have all your sanding done before you stain and varnish, and round the striking tip as well.
As noted before, marine varnish provides excellent sealing properties while maintaining flexibility. You will usually want to apply ‘at least’ two coats. We do each coat in two parts, so there is always a dry portion of the cane to attach the hanging string to. If you are only going to use the cane on one person, you can choose not to use varnish–but you will need to re-soak the cane frequently to maintain its moisture level. Varnishing seals in the moisture and provides a barrier to body fluids–rattan, as with all woods, is porous.
At this point, all you need is a willing submissive to try your new canes out on. Have fun!
Mastering the Bugle Tie: A Guide to BDSM Bondage Fashion
Understanding the Bugle Tie
The bugle tie is a fascinating accessory that has its roots in military tradition but has recently found a niche in the world of BDSM bondage. This stylish tie not only elevates the look of a uniform but also adds an element of sophistication to your bondage escapades. For those eager to explore its versatility, this guide will take you through the steps to create the perfect bugle tie.
Materials Needed for Your Bugle Tie
Creating a bugle tie is as simple as gathering the right materials. You’ll need bugle cord, which comes in various colors and textures, allowing you to customize the look according to your preference. Additionally, some scissors and maybe a some decorative pins or clips for fastening will help you achieve a polished finish. This combination is not only essential for crafting the tie but also perfect for uplifting the aesthetic of any BDSM bondage scenario.
Crafting a Rope Monkey Fist Knot Ball Gag for Femdom Play
Why Personalize Your Bondage Gear?
In the world of BDSM and femdom play, personalizing your equipment can add a unique and intimate touch to your sessions. A handcrafted rope monkey fist knot ball gag is not only a functional piece of gear but also a symbol of care and attention to detail. Producing your own bondage items can enhance the overall experience by allowing you to customize both the aesthetic and the size to suit your needs.
Materials Needed for a Monkey Fist Knot Ball Gag
Before you begin crafting your rope monkey fist knot ball gag, gather the necessary materials. You will need:
– A length of soft yet sturdy rope (cotton or nylon work well) – A small, spherical object to form the core of the knot (a marble or rubber ball) – Scissors – Measuring tape
Quality materials will ensure comfort and durability, which are essential for safe and enjoyable play.
Steps to Craft Your Monkey Fist Knot
Creating a monkey fist knot might seem complicated, but with patience and practice, it becomes easier. Follow these steps:
1. **Measure and Cut**: Measure out the rope to an appropriate length. Approximately 3 to 4 feet should suffice. 2. **Form the Core**: Place the spherical object in the center of your intended knot space. 3. **Wrap the Rope**: Begin by wrapping the rope around the core horizontally three times. Keep the loops tight. 4. **Vertical Wraps**: Turn the half-finished knot 90 degrees and wrap the rope vertically around it three more times. 5. **Final Wraps**: Rotate the knot again and wrap the rope around the previous wraps, ensuring it forms a ball. 6. **Tighten**: Gently tighten the wraps by pulling on each loop to secure the ball.
These straightforward steps will help you create a durable and personalized monkey fist knot ball gag in addition with the provided video.
Ensuring Safety and Comfort
Always consider safety and comfort when using homemade bondage equipment. Test the ball gag gently to ensure there are no sharp edges or uncomfortable pressures. Communication with your partner is crucial for a safe and pleasurable experience. Adjust as needed to ensure a secure yet comfortable fit.
By crafting your own rope monkey fist knot ball gag, you imbue it with a personalized touch that can make your sessions more meaningful and enjoyable.
